Are You Burying Your Head in the Sand?

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Are You Burying Your Head in the Sand?

Spirit often tells people that their bodies can heal themselves if they get themselves out of their body’s way.

For a long time I wondered what the difference was between getting out of the way and putting your head in the sand. I definitely didn’t know the difference when I set out on my own journey of growth and expansion with a health issue three years ago.

With my background in EFT, Zpoint, Reiki and Divine Love Healing, I knew there had to be an underlying emotional cause. I was sufficiently connected to my body to know what treatment it wanted or didn’t want, but I still was unclear about the difference in getting out of my own way and putting my head in the sand.

So for a time I put my head in the sand and travelled through the various stages, both emotional and physical, that I suspect many people facing so called potentially “serious” illness go through.

Why Did I Get Ill?

Because of my background, I missed out the “why me?” and “poor me” phases but I visited all the other places we can go when faced with dis-ease. If you find yourself in a “why me?” or a “poor me” stage, don’t beat yourself up about it, accept it, be with it for a while, truly feel it and know it will pass. You don’t live there, you are only visiting!


The disassociation phase, is, I believe, a very important one. It was during this phase that I made a big discovery. Disassociation from the “dis-eased” part is the very last thing it needs. It needs love, true, deep love and appreciation. I gained deep knowing from my disassociation phase, I needed to truly, truly love and appreciate my body, not just say the words, have an intellectual understanding or a belief. I had to love so deeply that the love, truly permeated my cells. That is what they responded to. Although intellect and belief help, they are surface helpers, I needed to go far beyond that, in to a deep, cellular, loving and knowing.

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Deep Healing

When I got to that deep, loving, knowing, I realised I’d discovered the difference between getting myself out of the way and putting my head in the sand. There was a level of true acceptance, deep love and knowing in getting and staying out of my body’s way. All the energy I’d used putting my head in the sand, and it takes a lot of energy to do that, was freed up to be used in a positive, loving, healing way.

We don’t think twice when our body recovers from a cold, a pulled muscle or a cut finger. Why then do we believe there are some dis-eases, it can’t heal? That makes no sense to me.

I wish anyone who is faced with dis-ease, a very loving journey, be gentle with yourself.

With Love,


Article originally published 27th June 2012 by






4 thoughts on “Are You Burying Your Head in the Sand?

  • April 29, 2013 at 10:01 pm

    Thank you for these insights, Barbara! Love and acceptance are wonderful emotions to befriend on this journey called life. That deep self-love, coupled with the acceptance of where we are in this sacred moment, are amazing catalysts for positive change. I appreciate you writing about this; it’s such an important topic.

    Much Love,

    • April 30, 2013 at 12:38 am

      Thank you, Kim. I am so grateful for your kind comment and understanding and that our paths have crossed.
      Love, gratitude and blessings,

  • January 8, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    I so agree with this Barbara I Just had a Birthday Just turned 65 , I walk five miles nearly every day,I have never had a serious illness now maybe a cold once a year no surgeries not until I read this article did I realized that what I had been telling myself all of my life may have been the key, That I am loved by something bigger than myself, and always try to look on the bright side of everything, live with the attitude of forgiveness in your heart daily, and Barbara I do believe in prayer and I will be praying for you I continue to love your link. Gods Speed Always.

    • January 8, 2016 at 1:56 pm

      Hi Nadine,
      I hope you had a wonderfully happy birthday! Thank you so much for your comment. I am delighted that this message resonated with you and you realise how well you’ve looked after yourself all these years. Sadly, many people still don’t know the harm they are doing themselves by self-criticism and negative self-talk. I believe we are all loved more than we can imagine. Thank you so much for your prayers and good wishes. Bless you.


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