Invoke The Power of Negative Thinking

Invoke The Power of Negative Thinking

Invoke The Power of Negative Thinking

the secret of negative thinking

“As an antidote to terminal optimism, I have recommended the power of negative thinking. Tongue in cheek of course”. Dr Gabor Maté .

“Optimism is a far more powerful state than trying to be “positive” because it comes from a deeper place of self-love”. Anita Moorjani

Books espousing the power of positive thinking fill the Self-Help sections of book shops everywhere and yet people still feel bad about themselves and still manifest illnesses that indicate a lack of self-love and self-esteem.

So how can this be?

I agree with Dr Maté when he says “As soon as we qualify the word thinking with the adjective positive we exclude those parts of reality that strike us as negative”. And with Anita Moorjani when she says “We can’t control having negative thoughts, so trying to push them away doesn’t make them disappear; at most, this just buries them temporarily”.

Genuine positive thinking must include all of our reality, we must be able to trust ourselves to face the complete truth. In order to heal, we must have the courage to think negatively. Not in a miserable, pessimistic way, rather in a spirit of openness, a willingness to look at what is out of balance, what is not working, where we are carrying old emotional wounds, what have we ignored and what our body is telling us!

If we don’t ask these questions, the emotional wounds and stresses remain hidden. Not only that, but forcing ourselves to think only positive thoughts creates more stress and self-judgement.

Many people have asked me if the releasing and clearing statements in our What Your Body Wants To Hear meditations are going to bring them more of what they don’t want. Such has been the power of law of attraction teachings that people are scared to hear or say certain words! As the root of many illnesses is stress and fear, being afraid to even think certain words can’t be healthy.

One study found that breast cancer patients with a propensity to engage in pleasant daydreams had a poorer prognosis than their more reality-based counterparts. So did women who reported fewer negative feelings. *

One way or another, most of us have been taught to suppress our true feelings. That teaching has gone so deep that we often don’t know what our true feelings are. As an Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner of almost twenty years, I absolutely believe there is a world of difference between gently acknowledging a painful negative emotion with love and the intention to heal it and talking about the pain, joining a group to talk about the pain and generally dwelling in it.

This seems to be corroborated by the amazing results people report when they use the clearing and releasing statements to lovingly name and acknowledge painful emotions before gently moving on to release them.

You CAN heal. You CAN change your thoughts but please be kind and gentle with yourself, you are just learning to turn your negative thoughts and words into positive ones. Don’t be afraid if a negative thought crosses your mind or a negative word passes your lips. The fear will give it more power and anchor it in to reality. Just be aware of it and let it pass. Remind yourself that kind of thinking is your old habit, you are now creating new habits.

And lastly, if part of you is ill or in dis-ease. Don’t get angry or blame it, treat it with gentleness and love as you would a sick child or puppy.

To your health and healing,

Love,

Barbara

* Mogens R Jensen, “Psychobiological Factors Predicting the Course of Breast Cancer”, Journal of Personality 55, no.2 (June 1987), 337.

The Unseen Dynamics of Social Eating

The Unseen Dynamics of Social Eating

The Unseen Dynamics of Social Eating

(You CAN change them!)

happy couple eating out together

“By changing her inner-world, energy and attitude and without saying a word, my client’s inner changes changed the dynamics of the evening.”

When I first started as an Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner I specialised in weight issues, both on a one to one basis and running groups.

I have written before about some of the fascinating reasons people don’t lose weight until their emotional issues are discovered and dealt with. What Was Going On In Your Life The Last Time You Were at Your Ideal Weight?

Today I want to write about the unseen dynamics that go on around social eating. Eating together is one of the most enjoyable, bonding, sharing experiences we can have but if you have emotional issues around over-eating, it can be very challenging.

If you approach social eating without having addressed your underlying emotional issues, you are going to struggle – to say the least.

One mother of two young children I spoke with (but didn’t work with!) explained that she had signed up for a very expensive meal delivery service. This service sent her calorie controlled meals every day. She didn’t have to think about what to buy or cook and she didn’t have to count the calories, so far so good. However, in order to resist the temptation of picking from her kid’s plates, she ate alone in the kitchen while her family ate together at the dining table. In order to resist temptation, she completely isolated herself and missed precious family time with her husband and children. Going out for a romantic dinner with her husband was out of the question as was having a girls night out with her friends.

I think you can see where this is going and can probably guess how long that kind of self-denial would last.

Having spent a lot of money on this ‘weight loss’ system and using will-power alone, she was pretty miserable. There was absolutely nothing positive to aim for and her unresolved, subconscious emotional drivers would probably ensure she wasn’t going to be able to sustain this lonely regime for very long.

On the completely opposite end of the spectrum, I worked with a lady who’s results astounded me.

We worked one to one, addressing the roots of her emotional eating with E.F.T. and she confided in me that she was worried that changing her outlook and attitude towards food might ruin a special friendship she had. She and a girlfriend had a regular girls night date where they ordered Chinese food, chatted and laughed and really enjoyed themselves. After dinner, her friend’s daughter would bring home snacks which they would all enjoy together. These evenings were really special to her and she didn’t want to lose them.

To be completely honest, at the time I didn’t know how the work we did together would affect these special evenings. I was thrilled and amazed when she told me what had happened the first ‘girls night’ after our sessions.

The evening started out as normal, chatting, laughing and having a good time. Controlling how much she ate wasn’t even on her mind, she was up for a good, fun night. What she hadn’t explained to me before, was that they always went back for second helpings and ate the food until it was gone! After that, they’d get stuck into the snacks the friend’s daughter brought over.

On this night, however, she didn’t go back for second helpings nor was she drawn to eat any of the snacks, she just felt happily full. She wasn’t using will-power, she hadn’t even consciously thought of how much she was or was not eating, she just felt full. This I would have expected, but I didn’t expect the next part! Her friend (who didn’t even know about our E.F.T. sessions and certainly hadn’t done any!) didn’t go back for second helpings either, nor did she eat as many of the snacks her daughter brought over.

By changing her inner-world, energy and attitude and without saying a word, my client’s inner changes changed the dynamics of the evening.

Whatever emotional drivers and dynamics had been at play had changed and this change affected everyone. It didn’t happen on a conscious level but on the much more powerful energetic level and best of all, none of it involved self-denial, self-discipline or will-power!

This really goes to the root of this work, we don’t want to be miserable, micro manage ourselves, struggle with will-power and expensive weight loss solutions. We want to effect change on a deep, subconscious level, by healing the emotional drivers behind the behaviour. We want this to be easy, natural and organic and most importantly we still want to be able to enjoy spending time with our loved ones, eating together and having fun!

Learn more about the true keys to permanent, healthy weight loss.

“It has never been about food, it has always, always been about healing painful emotions.”

 

 

EFT Eases Prickly Heat…

EFT Eases Prickly Heat…

EFT Eases Prickly Heat Rash Quickly, Painlessly & Drug Free

EFT Eases Prickly Heat Rash

A couple of days ago, I had a lovely opportunity to share the power of Emotional Freedom Technique with one of our Facebook Group members. He’d had a terrible heat rash the night before, spent the night in front of a fan with ice, antihistamines and hydrocortisone waiting for something to help. Just as the sun was coming up the itch finally started to abate. He felt dreadful as he felt he’d taken way too many antihistamines and had to cancel his beach plans with his friends. He also felt his Hay Fever was starting to kick in.
 
Whilst we didn’t have time for a full-blown E.F.T. Session, I asked if he’d like me to help him to try to take the edge off the remaining redness and irritation. This is what I call a kind of fire-fighting session where we don’t go deeply into all the emotional issues which are contributing to the issue, we deal with the symptoms as they present themselves in the present moment and how the person feels about having them.
 
I didn’t have a watch or clock so I don’t know how long it took but in just a few rounds of E.F.T. his skin irritation had completely gone! I could hear his voice and breathing had changed and he told me he felt so much more relaxed. I was delighted and he was astonished!
 
My E.F.T. teacher, Catherine O’Driscoll tells a story of when she first learned E.F.T. She was living in a gorgeous, huge house with very grand, impressive gardens, the only problem was, she suffered horribly from Hay Fever. She set out on her big sit-on lawn mower to cut the grass one day and her Hay Fever kicked in. She had only just received Gary Craig’s educational E.F.T. videos but decided to watch one and try E.F.T. for her Hay Fever. Later that day, she cut her grass with no sign of any Hay Fever!
 
I also worked with the lovely Zane Baker of Valhalla Mind on his life-long, very serious allergies. He had had allergy tests and taken all kinds of medication but his allergies affected his life really badly, even preventing him from working. You can see Zane’s story of how E.F.T. freed him from chronic breathing difficulties in this little video. 
 
Such is the power of E.F.T.!
 
If you or a loved on suffer from allergies of any kind, I highly recommend you give E.F.T. a try. If you are already a “tapper” you might want to tap along with our Soothe Your Skin transcript or get the Soothe Your Skin Meditation as an MP3 or on our What Your Body Wants To Hear app.
 

Update!

A lovely update this morning. 🙂 “I’ve woken up feeling much lighter and my skin feels fine. I tried using tapping last night for my hayfever too and I’m not so stuffy this morning!”

If you would like to discuss how E.F.T. might help you or a loved one with allergies, use the drop down menu to book yourself a FREE Half Hour Skype Consultation with me.

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the “Wrong” Moment!

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the “Wrong” Moment!

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the “Wrong” Moment!

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the "Wrong" Moment!

We’ve all been there, you’ve just landed your perfect job, perfect client, perfect romance or are about to take the trip of a life time and wham! You are knocked out by illness, chronic pain or have an “accident”! You are just about to make an important presentation or celebrate a long planned anniversary, you’re about about to help your kids move into their first home and your back goes out.

Why do these things come about at precisely the “wrong” time?

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You are about to take the trip of a lifetime and are hit with a tummy bug.

You have a great career opportunity and break or sprain your ankle.

When these things happen we often curse our fate, complain about our luck or grumble about our bodies.

Are we cursed or doomed or dysfunctional in some way? Are we deliberately sabotaging ourselves or is something much deeper and wiser going on?

Those of you who know me, know how passionate I am about teaching your body is not your enemy! But if you don’t understand why these things happen or what messages they have for you, you could easily believe your body IS your enemy.

Time and time again I hear stories of this kind of thing happening and without exception, when I look at the circumstances, I can see the underlying message.

Three friends of mine broke or sprained their ankles when they had either moved to a new school and felt frightened and out of their depth. Or faced a huge change in the direction their lives were taking. I wrote in depth about ankle injuries in my article Why People Break, Sprain and Otherwise Damage Their Ankles.

Lower back pain is another great one! Job insecurity, birthdays, retirement or even children leaving home can trigger this because these occasions confront us with our own mortality. They can bring up deep layers of fear and insecurity about what lies ahead or about our standing in life. You can learn more about lower back pain in my article Healing For Your Lower Back

What’s the best thing to do when you are faced with illness, injury or accident at precisely the “wrong” moment?

The first thing to realise is that it struck at exactly the RIGHT moment! It struck to let you know that some part of you is feeling scared, is out of its comfort zone or is being reminded of a previous time it felt that way.

So often when we are making big changes in our lives, our bodies step in to tell us that an unresolved emotional issue has been triggered. Your body is actually doing you a favour! The illness or accident can give you some time to stop and think, to do the emotional work that needs to be done and to allow the rest of you to catch up with the new direction or life challenge you are facing.

How To Speed Up Your Recovery

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the "Wrong" Moment! Look after yourself.

Nurture Yourself! Be kind to yourself! The best way to speed up your recovery is to thank your body. Don’t try to fight or resist the pain. Deliberately and consciously go into the pain, let it know you are listening to it and are open to hearing what has come to teach you.

Try to see the bigger picture, yes you may have been inconvenienced by it. But it provides you with a great opportunity to know yourself better, perhaps to rest and reassess your situation and to learn and grow. Your body has great wisdom, it’s much better and less painful to go with it, love and learn from it than to fight and struggle with it.

With love to all our amazing bodies,

Barbara

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Talk To Your Pain

Talk To Your Pain

Talk To Your Pain

Talk To Your Pain

Talking to your pain might seem like a strange concept but I am willing to bet that you already do it!

When you become aware of your self-talk you realise that when you are in pain you tend to complain about it, if not to others, certainly to yourself. You may grumble about it, feel resentful and even angry that it prevents you from doing things you want to do.

You judge and criticise yourself and your body. You tell others what a “bad back” or “bad hip” you have and how much you suffer with it.

If you have a name for your pain, a diagnosis, it is worth remembering diagnosis is simply a word. It is just a word used to describe a symptom or symptoms showing up in the body. Diagnosis is only a name, agreed upon to identify specific symptoms.

A diagnosis only has as much power as YOU give it! When you talk about it and identify yourself with it, you give it more power, you give it more energy. When you talk about it, you are affirming you have it!

If you do any of these things, you are already talking to your pain and you are affirming it! The great news is that now that you are aware of this you can change it!

You can change it this very minute by changing the way you talk to the part of your body that is pain. Think of it as a small child, puppy or kitten scared and in pain. Instead of complaining, focus on sending it warm, loving thoughts, if you can (you might not be ready for this step yet) thank it for everything it has done for you and for the message it is sending you. By doing this you change the energy around it instantly.

If you need help knowing which words to use, look up my free affirmations and use those that resonate with you. There are over 2,500 of them so you are bound to find something that suits your situation. When you use these affirmations you are using the same words the people below used to ease their pain. Please use them freely and share them with friends and loved ones.

I am truly blessed to receive many messages from people who have used my What Your Body Wants To Hear meditations to help them change the way they speak to their bodies. Here are just a few message of how changing the way they viewed the pain and spoke to their bodies helped them.

To your health and healing,

Love,

Barbara

Knee Pain

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“I bought your body wants to hear, support your knees, and surprisingly for me, it has helped my knees immensely, making most of the pain go away. I try to listen to it everyday. Because of a bad accident, my left knee hurt either a little or a lot every day. Since listening to your affirmations, it either hasn’t hurt or it hurts just a little. SO thank you very much”. ~ Mr T.

“I listened to the Support the knees 3 times and I no longer have knee pain! In fact there was a significant difference after the first listen. I have torn meniscus in both knees and don’t want to have the surgery. I still don’t want the pain. It’s pretty amazing however”. Ms. F.L.

“I want to say thanks again for making the knee meditation. I really have done a lot of different treatments, and I have Western treatment on it, and your meditation worked really fast! I had read some of the testimonials, and I was scared that although one person said it worked within three listens, and the others were positive, I was scared it wouldn’t have the same affect on me. But I was very happy and surprised that it did”. Mr T.F.

“My knee pain went away! Fabulous results when combined with E.F.T. Tapping. Highly recommended”. Ms R.D.

“Thank you Barbara Clark. I was introduced to your affirmations by a crystal healer on the Big Island of Hawaii in 2016. They have truly been life saving. I now use them in combination with reiki energy for my husband. He had partial knee replacements in 2014 and was still suffering with daily swelling. After a few weeks of your meditations – the swelling went away, rarely comes back!!!” Ms V.M.P. 28th March 2018

Hip Pain

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“A few days ago after moving my father in law to a nursing home, we had to clear out his apt. This is the apt I have taken care of him for almost a year. Clearing out his apt was filled with so many emotions. I developed almost debilitating left hip pain while moving his stuff out. Now two days later after cleaning up a day ago, I woke up with pain in the morning but my nightfall tonight, it is almost all gone. I was in so much pain I was crying and could only drag my leg around all yesterday. Even today earlier in the day, there was still intense pain at times. As an herbalist, I began to question if it was not emotional rather than overdoing it when moving the stuff out. I know it is. There was so much fear for the future since he was paying us to take care of him. So we have half the income we had but I know we will make it through, even though it is scary since we are 66 and 70. We had to put him in….we physically could not handle him. It was an abrupt change from 24 hours a day for weeks to none. Emotionally and physically I was a wreck trying to care for him in the last weeks. I feel much better tonight mentally as well. I have felt drained like being hit with a mack truck for weeks”. Kate Freer 1st April 2018

I just did these affirmations with EFT AND felt a load off of my emotions!
Also the sharp pain subsides significantly. Emotional freedom with affirmations are amazing. Thanks for sharingDecember 2017

“I was looking for hip affirmations (because working directly with the physical body wasn’t working and it was very clearly linked to emotional pain). My hips are starting to feel better already and it was truly useful when my hip was in its most extreme pain. I recommend your site all the time! Ms C. M. March 2018

“Hip Hip Hooray!!! There is one I am working on for my right hip. It is starting to show some improvement. Ms S.D.

Swollen Ankles

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“I had two incidences with a swollen ankle between July and October and I wanted to get to the vibrational cause at the time. Now that I have shifted further into love it has revealed itself at at time where I can view what I was living more objectively. Much appreciation. Ms J.A.

Personal Stories about Back Pain 

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