E.F.T. Tapping When Your Baby Is In An Incubator

E.F.T. Tapping When Your Baby Is In An Incubator

E.F.T. Tapping When Your Baby Is In An Incubator

EFT Tapping When Your Baby is in an Incubator

As a parent there can be few things that make you feel more helpless and useless than when your premature or sick baby is whisked off in an incubator! You have to stand back whilst your baby is put on a ventilator, wired up to noisy monitors,  poked, prodded and subjected to painful and invasive procedures.  Your entire being; your biology, your heart and soul are screaming out to love, nurture and protect this precious little scrap, yet you can do nothing!  As a new mother, every nerve, sinew and hormone is programmed to hold, love and nurture the new arrival,.  You know all the interventions, as painful as many of them are, could be life saving. So you have to stand back, let strangers take over and somehow keep a lid on your viscerally raw emotions and instincts, your baby’s life depends on those strangers and there is absolutely nothing you can do. 

Or is there? 

Back in 1992 when I faced this situation, there was nothing I could do. I didn’t know Emotional Freedom Technique or Reiki. I had no way of soothing myself far less helping my daughter.  A bit later we were allowed to put our hands in the incubator, find a tiny piece of flesh which didn’t have a monitor or cannula  on it and touch her but that didn’t compensate for not being able to pick her up, hold her or feed her. 

Back then, like millions of other parents, I used will-power and determination to get through the long days and nights and continue to function. Many medical staff complimented me on how well I coped. Of course I wasn’t really coping, I was simply repressing painful emotions which is never healthy and brings it’s own problems further down the line!

Emotional Freedom Technique is definitely number one on my list of things I wish I’d known back then!

How You Can Help Yourself and Your Baby With Surrogate E.F.T. Tapping

It’s wonderful to see Emotional Freedom Technique becoming more widely known and accepted. It is very quick and easy to learn and amazingly effective even in the hands of complete beginners. Not all teachers know, or will tell you, that E.F.T. can also be done surrogately. You can tap on behalf of someone else even when you are not with them.

As we are using loving intention and energy, time and distance don’t matter. You can tap for your baby no matter where you are!

I won’t speculate on how or why this works, there are many different theories and for the purposes of this article, all I care about is that it helps someone out there.

Firstly Soothe Your Self!

We often project our fears onto others. In such a traumatic situation as the birth of a premature or sick baby you have to soothe yourself first. We are no use to anyone else when we are in deep trauma and shock ourselves.  Your baby feels your emotions and energy so by soothing yourself you also help her.

Three Ways to Tap On Behalf of Your Baby

Tune in to your baby and tap for whatever you feel or can see is upsetting or traumatising them. The obvious ones are of course, pain, fear, isolation and any painful medical interventions.

1. Tap On Your Own Body As Yourself

Simply tap as you normally would, but rather than state you have the problem, use the baby’s name for your set up statement.  “Even though (baby’s name or my baby) has this problem (state problem) I deeply and completely love and accept (baby’s name).  Do the same with your reminder phrase.

2. Tap On Your Own Body As Your Baby

Similar to the method above but sometimes this helps you  tune into how your baby is feeling more accurately.  Bearing in mind how connected you are with your newborn it’s not surprising that you often feel exactly what they are feeling.  Set your intention that you are your baby, then tap around as though you are the baby. “Even though I have this problem” etc. Remember to disconnect and come back to yourself when you are done.

3. Using A Proxy Item To Represent Your Baby

This can be a really useful way to help you focus. Any teddy bear, doll or other toy will do. Simply intend the toy to represent your baby and tap around the points as normal.

EFT Surrogate Tapping Teddy Bear


The Question of Permission

As a parent you only have the highest and best intentions for your child, your heart and intent are pure and loving. In the higher realms we are all connected, we are all love, we are all one. If you feel the need to ask the baby’s higher self or soul for permission do so but I truly don’t think anything done from such love, care and compassion can ever cause harm.

Ease Cold & Flu Symptoms With E.F.T.

Ease Cold & Flu Symptoms With E.F.T.

Ease Cold & Flu Symptoms With E.F.T.

using eft for a cold or flu

It’s that time of year again so I thought a short Emotional Freedom Technique session to help you ease cold symptoms might be useful.

The common cold often arises from the simple belief that there is such a thing as a “Cold Season”.  If we buy into this belief it’s pretty certain that we’ll develop a cold!  Feelings of overwhelm, being overworked, carrying too much responsibility, being under too much pressure, feeling scattered and not taking time to listen to your body and slow down also often result in us developing colds.

If you are feeling under the weather check to see if you are feeling any of these emotions. That will give you ideas for what to tap on.  But you can get started right now by following the suggestions below.

If you are not familiar with E.F.T.  Just follow the tapping points illustrated below.

EFT Tapping PointsStarting at the Side of Hand Point say your set up statement out loud if possible and tap gently on the Side of the Hand with two or three fingers of your other hand.

“Even though I have this cold, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself”.  Repeat this three times then tap the Eyebrow Point gently around ten times saying “I have this cold”. Move to the Side Of Eye point and repeat, “I have this cold”.  Repeat this at all the tapping points finishing off with the Top of Your Head point.

eft for a cold or flu

Return to your Side of Hand Point and say “Even though I have this cold, I know it’s my body’s way of giving me a message, maybe it just wants to me to slow down and take some time out. Or maybe it wants me to look after myself a bit more. Maybe I’ve just been doing to much and need to rest, nurture and love myself more.  I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself and I am grateful to my body for giving me this message. Repeat this three times.

Move to the Eyebrow Point and tap gently around ten times saying “My body is giving me this message, I am grateful. I now choose to listen to my body and take good care of myself”.

Repeat this at all the tapping points finishing off with the Top of Your Head point.

Back to the Side of Hand Point and say, “Even though I have (state symptom), I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself and my body. I am now listening to my body’s messages”. Again, repeat this three times then tap round the points using the reminder phrase, “This symptom (whatever the symptom is, i.e. this blocked nose etc).

You can then do a round for each of your symptoms.

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Why Aches & Pains You Thought Were Healed Strike Again In December

Why Aches & Pains You Thought Were Healed Strike Again In December

Why Aches & Pains You Thought Were Healed Strike Again In December

What Your Body Wants To Hear Healing Meditations

December is well and truly upon us and it can be a funny month. For many people it’s happy, for most people it’s fun and busy! For some people it is deeply painful and lonely. It can also be a time when the old aches and pains you thought you’d healed reappear! You might choose to believe in things like “germ theory” or “the flu season” although, if you are reading this, you probably know better 🙂

Listen To Your Body!

With all the anniversaries, celebrations, happy or unhappy memories which are triggered at this time of year, it is far more likely that an unresolved emotional issue has been re-triggered.  Your body is letting you know this, by manifesting pain or dis-ease.

How Do I Know Which Emotions Have Been Re-triggered?

Listen to your body!  If you are not consciously aware of a feeling or emotion that has come up, the painful area in your body will give you a clue. The area which is painful is pointing the way to the emotions that have been triggered.  I share over 2,500 Free Healing Affirmations for all areas of your body & life.  The clearings and affirmations tell you which emotions are likely to be causing the pain.

Check Your Beliefs!

Become aware of  your beliefs.  If you tell everyone “I get three colds every winter.” should you be surprised when your body manifests what your words are affirming? Your body hears your words and does its best to follow your instructions.  If you say, “I always slip on the ice”, are you surprised when you slip on the ice?  Take a good look at your beliefs, thoughts and words. Lower back pain often coincides with anniversaries. These occasions confront us with our own mortality and can bring up deep layers of fear and insecurity about what lies ahead or about our standing in life. Learn more about lower back pain and how to help it heal.

As You Become More Aware and Conscious

As you become more aware and conscious, you realise that the state of your  body, health and life are a direct result of your consistent thoughts. One stray thought isn’t going to cause a calamity, but thoughts you think over and over again, become beliefs and beliefs are very powerful.  So this winter, become aware of your beliefs and see how your health improves.

A Top Tip To Stay Well

If you don’t want to get coughs, colds, sinus infections etc. PLEASE don’t watch ads for cold & flu! You might think I’ve forgotten the word “remedies” at the end of that last sentence – I didn’t!

Remember all these ads are there to make money and constantly reminding you it’s the “flu season” is a sure fire way to bring flu into your consciousness. Whenever you see them, remind yourself that is no longer your reality. Affirm that you are healthy, your immune system is powerful and re-set your intention to remain healthy. Give no energy or attention to the imaginary “flu season”.



3 Key Emotional Reasons For for Broken, Sprained & Swollen Ankles

3 Key Emotional Reasons For for Broken, Sprained & Swollen Ankles

3 Key Emotional Reasons for Broken, Sprained & Swollen Ankles

Affirmations For Ankle Pain


A Spate of Ankle Injuries!

I have heard a few stories recently about injured ankles so thought I’d write a brief post about what is really going on with us when we hurt our ankles.  On the face of it you might say it’s just down to the wintry weather. I don’t believe that for a moment! There is always a deeper reason for everything that happens to us, or more precisely, experiences we create.

If you have hurt, broken or damaged your ankle, the first and most important emotional issue to look at is support!  Your ankles reflect the support we all depend on from people around us and more importantly our inner support system. This inner support system consists of the psychological and emotional beliefs that give our lives meaning and purpose.  It includes the emotional support of our loved ones or spiritual or religious convictions.  If any of that is taken away, doubted or questioned there is nothing left to hold us upright. This can happen when we are shocked, traumatised, betrayed or rejected and feel unable to stand alone.

Our ankles are essential in keeping us upright, therefore they may collapse when we can no longer stand it or when the weight is just too much to bear.

A Sprained or Twisted Ankle

Our ankles also allow us to be flexible. A sprained or twisted ankle, implies a lack of flexibility in the direction we are going. The strain is too much and causes the energy to buckle or twist, i.e. to go in all directions at once.

A Swollen Ankle

A swollen ankle indicates that you are holding emotional energy, frustration or resistance to letting go.

A Broken Ankle

A broken ankle indicates a very deep emotional conflict about the ground you are standing on. Perhaps you are resisting making a change in the direction of your life, questioning your beliefs or are afraid or unable to stand up for yourself. Ask yourself what does your broken ankle prevent you from doing and what does your broken ankle allow you do to?

Use our free affirmations to send love and support to your ankles




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