After my article, Are You Burying Your Head in the Sand?, was published many people asked how they could get themselves out of the way and allow their bodies to heal. How could they connect, appreciate and love their bodies more?
We are all unique and there is no one definitive answer. I hope this article provides a bridge to help people understand the importance of self-talk and beliefs, and move towards having a more loving, appreciative relationship with their bodies.
Much has been written about the interconnection of emotion and physical dis-ease. And, although each of us is unique, it is possible to generalise where a particular emotion will manifest a physical symptom if it is not dealt with. Our language gives us clues as to the truth of this. For example, have you ever said, “So and so is a pain in the neck”? Or “He/she has the weight of the world on his/her shoulders”?
Dr. John Sarno MD, a traditionally trained professor of New York University School of Medicine, came to the same conclusion. After many years of treating patients with back pain using standard remedies, he continued to get lousy results until he realised that 88% of his patients also had stress-related problems.
When he started to teach his patients that tension, not structural problems, was to blame for their pain, he started to see good results for the first time in his career. Andrew Weil MD, also traditionally trained, calls himself, “a great believer in Dr Sarno’s ideas”.
Because so many people suffer from back pain, I am using the back as an example, but the same is true for all other parts of our bodies. Because our backs carry so many emotional issues for us, it is divided into three parts. But as I say, this is, to a degree, a generalisation.
The Upper Back
The upper back represents the reverse side of the heart; this is where we find fear, irritation, anger, resentment and frustration.
The Middle Back
The middle back holds the balance in the centre of the body; therefore it is connected to decision-making. Resentment can also be found in the middle back. The saying “I bent over backwards to help…” relates to the middle back.
The Lower Back
The lower back is often where we store feelings of being unsupported, of the weight of responsibility. Issues of security, isolation, survival and self-support are often stored in the lower back.
So what to do about it?
If you have been unable, so far, to get yourself out of your body’s way with any other technique, I suggest your first step is to suspend your disbelief and change your self-talk. If you can do that, even for a short time, you are giving your body a welcome respite. And in that place of peace, healing “miracles” can occur.
For those who are telling themselves the story that they have a “bad back”—is it really? What would it have to do to become a “good back”?