Law of Attraction “Aren’t the releasing and clearing statements  going to bring me more of what I don’t want?”

People have asked me if listening to and allowing the releasing statements in my guided meditations in to their subconscious minds will bring them more of what they don’t want as described in many Law of Attraction teachings.

Some Law of Attraction teachings set people up to be frightened of having even a tiny negative thought and I believe this is a mistake.

As some wise spiritual teachers tell us, “You cannot be in the light by being in denial of the darkness”.* In other words, if you speak positive words but hold negative beliefs, the positive words will be at best, much less powerful.

My background in Emotional Freedom Technique taught me that although we may have or be manifesting an issue or dis-ease that is not who we are!

Louise L Hay says, “You will never create health by talking or thinking about illness” and that is true. But there is a huge difference between stating a problem briefly with the intention to clear and release it and dwelling on it, complaining endlessly about it, joining groups of like minded people to continue talking about it or building your life around it.

You CAN heal. You CAN change your thoughts but please be gentle with yourself as you learn to turn your negative thoughts and words into positive ones. Don’t be afraid if a negative thought crosses your mind or a negative word passes your lips. The fear will give it more power and anchor it in to reality. Just be aware of it and let it pass. Remind yourself that kind of thinking is your old habit, you are now creating new habits.

And lastly, if part of you is ill or in dis-ease. Don’t get angry or blame it, treat it with gentleness and love as you would a sick child or puppy.

With love,


*If anyone can remind me who said this, please let me know. I know it, but can’t place it at the moment. Thank you.








  • February 26, 2014 at 7:24 pm

    Great title, Barbara — I love it!

    I think you made an excellent point about the difference between the desire to heal versus complaining endlessly about what’s wrong. It’s the intention that counts. In one case the intention is to heal, and in the other it’s to just wallow in the dis-ease. There’s a huge difference.

    Thanks very much for a great post!

    Love, John

    • February 26, 2014 at 9:08 pm

      Thank you, John. I think it is an important point. Many people have asked this question when doing EFT as well as my meditations. But as you know, there is a world of difference in the intention and consciousness of healing versus complaining.


  • July 4, 2017 at 1:48 pm

    “Some Law of Attraction teachings set people up to be frightened of having even a tiny negative thought and I believe this is a mistake.”

    So true. There are times when your negative thoughts are not in your control, like in depression or PTSD. If during such times, you read law of atteaction teaching, you feel more scared and your negativity is multiplied all the more.

    Sometimes, I really wonder for whom this motivational literature is written. For those who are suffering from negative thinking and depression or for those who are not.

    • July 6, 2017 at 10:20 am

      Hi Ashish,

      Thank you so much for your comment, I really appreciate it. I guess my base line or rule, is does this make people feel better or worse? It’s really that simple. I want to meet and value people where they are without judgment. After all, who among us knows the soul purpose behind anyone’s life?

      Blessings and gratitude,


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