Stressed? Overwhelmed? Lonely? Sad? Forgive Yourself.


Stressed? Overwhelmed? Lonely? Sad? Forgive Yourself!

From our soul’s perspective there is never any need for forgiveness.  We are  here on earth, experiencing experiences and doing the very best we can in every moment.  All our experiences, interactions and relationships are part of our soul’s plan for our highest good and spiritual growth They are part of everyone else’s soul plan too so there are no victims. Although it doesn’t always feel that way!

That said, our human selves sometimes feel the need for and benefit from forgiveness, of ourselves and others. In her book, “The Other F Word”*, Julianna Erickson describes forgiveness as “loosening, untying or letting go”. This slight change of perspective is very useful because  the word “forgiveness” comes with a lot of baggage and misconceptions.

If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, lonely or sad, remind yourself it’s only your thoughts that are making you feel that way. The more you think about something or someone, the more energy you give it, the more real and stronger it becomes.  You create an energy link with your thoughts and emotions and you tie yourself tighter and stronger to the unwanted thing/person with very thought and  emotion.

So if you are feeling like the swan, seemingly serene but paddling furiously beneath the surface, take a moment.

Become aware of the thoughts that are creating your emotions then let go, untie and loosen.

A very easy and quick way to do this is to go inside. Intend to send any energy which is not yours back where it came from then consciously call your own energy back.  Wherever it is scattered throughout the universe it will return. You may or may not feel it, but your intention will bring it back.  This is a very useful exercise to do whenever you feel scattered or stressed or find yourself obsessing about anything and it will help you to let go, untie and loosen or forgive the person or situation and free yourself.

With Love,


* My sincere thanks to Julie Ramige of Rewired For Your Success  and Sylvie Claire Morin of SMC Formations  for being their incredible selves and for introducing me to this book.  I am so grateful to have you in my life and an honoured to call you friends. <3

4 thoughts on “Stressed? Overwhelmed? Lonely? Sad? Forgive Yourself.

  • December 24, 2013 at 2:41 pm

    I too am grateful for you and your incredible work. I’m glad I met you and we can share so much! Love

    • December 24, 2013 at 3:26 pm

      Thank you, Sylvie. Happy, happy Christmas and a wondrous New Year! xxx

  • December 24, 2013 at 6:18 pm

    Great article, Barbara — thank you so much!

    And it’s very timely also — so many folks get depressed during the holidays, when it should be a time of great joy and peace. Your advice will definitely help anyone who’s dealing with negative emotions, this time of year or any other time.

    Love, John

    • December 24, 2013 at 8:43 pm

      Thank you, John, I really appreciate your comments. Holidays can be a tough time for a lot of people and it’s easy to feel pulled in too many directions and scattered. I find that simple little exercise really helps.


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