Why Positive Affirmations Can Feel So Uncomfortable
The simple answer is that your body knows when you tell a lie!
On some level that always feels uncomfortable because it sets up a conflict. If you state “I am healthy” or “I am wealthy” when you don’t believe that to be true your mind will immediately jump in with a “but” and your body will react. While you might get away with it if your opposing beliefs are not too far apart, you will definitely feel uncomfortable if there is a huge gulf between them.
This is exactly why all the What Your Body Wants To Hear meditations are constructed with “Why” questions or Afformations between the releasing statements and the positive affirmations (it is also why this site is called Beyond Affirmations). I will never jump straight into positive affirmations – it’s a jump too far for most people.
There is a Very Different Energy Between A Positive Affirmation and An Afformation
People who tried stating a positive affirmation then a “Why” question or Afformation out loud and who had initially thought it would be a negative thing soon realised that far from being negative, it opens us up to the many blessings we actually do have in our lives. It helps us see what is going right for us. In the case of physical healing, it reminds us of all the parts of our bodies which are working beautifully.
In the What Your Body Wants To Hear meditations the “Why” questions are a method of bridging from the releasing statements to the positive affirmations. It could otherwise be too large a jump for people to go straight in to really feeling the positive. It is also a way to get around the mind saying “yes but..” to a positive affirmation. There is a very different energy around the “Why” statements. Try it for yourself, you will feel it. For example if you say “I am abundant” your mind will probably jump to the reasons you are not abundant, “I’ve got this debt/I haven’t got any money” that kind of thing. If on the other hand you say “Why am I so abundant?” the mind tends to go to the things you are abundant in, love, friends, pets, health etc. There is less resistance to the “Why” statements and they help to lead you in to the positive.
If you don’t believe me, watch the brief but very powerful video below!
Most of us have heard of the mind-body connection. But did you realise how specific it is? A particular emotional shock or trauma generally creates physical pain or dis♥ease in very specific areas of the body.
7 examples of what message your aches and pains might be sending you:-
Do you have a fear of being rejected? Is someone trying to hold you back?
Are you fearful of expressing your heart-felt emotions?
Are you scared of letting go or holding on too tightly?
What are you resisting?
Do you have self-worth, self- confidence or self-esteem issues?
Are you uncertain of which direction to take in your life? Are you scared or unwilling to move on?
Has the rug been pulled out from under you once too often?
When you start to view aches, pains and even so-called accidents in this way, you discover the deeper meaning to it all. There are no “coincidences”!
Truthfully, the answer has to be yes and no. If you repeat vague, unrelated so called ‘positive affirmations’ the chances are they won’t make the slightest difference to your pain levels. If you try to force things to change you can pretty much bet nothing will change. Using will-power and repetition without addressing the true emotional issues will have you on a hamster wheel going nowhere fast.
If, on the other hand, you use skillfully crafted, very specific affirmations which start out by accepting where you are – you are in pain, now is the time to be kind and gentle with yourself. Simply accept that, don’t try to fight or resist it – fighting and resisting will only ever create more fighting and resisting and more pain.
Using affirmations (and clearing statements) in the correct sequence, i.e. acknowledging, accepting, becoming open to the possibility of healing then embracing the positive in a gentle, force free and loving way will take you a lot further. Often when people adopt this attitude of self-acceptance of their physical condition they reach much deeper levels of awakening and self-discovery on spiritual levels too. This makes perfect sense when you realise that all pain has a message for you. So while none of us like being in pain, in the longer term, many people will tell you that their pain was their greatest gift and greatest teacher.
Here are just a few stories from people who used our affirmations to ease and often completely clear pain in all areas of their bodies:-
“I have gone from dragging myself across the floor every morning in complete agony and dosing myself up on painkillers, to being able to walk completely unaided and pain free and drug free. My family and friends have always known me to have a bad back. The condition has affected me since childhood. But over the last few months it became progressively worse until I was unable to walk unaided. Each morning I would crawl on my hands and knees to the living room, where I would lie on the floor waiting for strong prescribed pain medication to take effect. The medication always makes me drowsy and unable to drive or work as well as I would like to. One morning, while lying on the floor, I knew the situation urgently had to change and I needed to find an alternative solution. This is when I discovered Barbara Clark’s back healing meditation. Barbara’s voice is beyond being soothing and gentle. When she speaks it feels like being deeply comforted and her voice feels like warm blankets of energy wrapping me up and shielding me from pain. I can honestly say that the results of Barbara’s meditation are quite simply astounding. I have gone from dragging myself across the floor every morning in complete agony and dosing myself up on painkillers, to being able to walk completely unaided and pain free and drug free. I highly recommend Barbara’s meditations. Thank you so much Barbara.” Steve Wentworth
“I have had back pain most of my life. I literally felt the pain leave my back and become transformed to love and light and forgiveness.thank you thank you thank you!” Russele Snow
“My back pain is gone. After suffering from upper back pain for the last 4 weeks I purchased the Full Back set of recordings. After listening to the Upper Back recording my back pain is gone, would recommend this set to anyone suffering from back problems. Thanks to Barbara and all her hard work in putting these recordings together, I would say well worth the effort.” K. Russel.
I felt about 60-70 percent better!! My goodness! I must say I have experienced great improvement already from your wonderful recordings! Your voice is so soothing, as is the music, and each time, I definitely reach what I call “zero point”== a VERY relaxed and deeply rejuvenating place! And I am happy to report that every time I get up afterward, there is definite improvement in the pain and stiffness in my back!! I must say that I was at quite a low point last night, after two weeks of attempting to help myself feel better, seeing energy healers here in Hout Bay, South Africa, and resting and praying, and doing my own brand of energy work (MAP, Reiki, visualizations), and STILL in pain — actually it had gotten much worse again. It was SUCH a gift to get the recordings and be able to listen to them last night (and twice today)! Sometimes you just need a little help from a friend, you know?
I slept so well, and this morning, I felt about 60-70 percent better!! I am also impressed with your deep insight into what can be held in our back– so many of the statements resonated so strongly with me! I could feel my root chakra opening and the energy moving powerfully as I released those many, many emotions and beliefs– and I will continue to do so.
Well, thank you again for all you BE and all you share! Please feel free to use any or all of the above in a testimonial in any way you choose!
Much gratitude and love,
“I can move without pain. Today suddenly I had back pain and I found you. Thank you again and again, my back is a bit better and I can move without pain”. Warmest regards, Nalini.
“My knee pain, of 6 months or more which I had put down to a torn cartilage, cleared up during very first listening to your knee mp3. Very impressive! You know, I’ve often tried affirmations for different things in the past but nothing worked til I tried your one. The great thing about using them for something physical, as opposed to purely emotional, is that it gives you something tangible to measure the results against. Am using your mp3 for the Neck at the moment, and it seems to be dragging up buried emotion. The optimist in me says that’s a good sign!” Graham Weeks. 6th June 2018
“I bought your body wants to hear, support your knees, and surprisingly for me, it has helped my knees immensely, making most of the pain go away. I try to listen to it everyday. Because of a bad accident, my left knee hurt either a little or a lot every day. Since listening to your affirmations, it either hasn’t hurt or it hurts just a little. SO thank you very much”. ~ Mr T.
“I listened to the Support the knees 3 times and I no longer have knee pain! In fact there was a significant difference after the first listen. I have torn meniscus in both knees and don’t want to have the surgery. I still don’t want the pain. It’s pretty amazing however”. Ms. F.L.
“I want to say thanks again for making the knee meditation. I really have done a lot of different treatments, and I have Western treatment on it, and your meditation worked really fast! I had read some of the testimonials, and I was scared that although one person said it worked within three listens, and the others were positive, I was scared it wouldn’t have the same affect on me. But I was very happy and surprised that it did”. Mr T.F.
“My knee pain went away! Fabulous results when combined with E.F.T. Tapping. Highly recommended”. Ms R.D.
“Thank you Barbara Clark. I was introduced to your affirmations by a crystal healer on the Big Island of Hawaii in 2016. They have truly been life saving. I now use them in combination with reiki energy for my husband. He had partial knee replacements in 2014 and was still suffering with daily swelling. After a few weeks of your meditations – the swelling went away, rarely comes back!!!” Ms V.M.P. 28th March 2018
“I feel much better tonight mentally as well. A few days ago after moving my father in law to a nursing home, we had to clear out his apt. This is the apt I have taken care of him for almost a year. Clearing out his apt was filled with so many emotions. I developed almost debilitating left hip pain while moving his stuff out. Now two days later after cleaning up a day ago, I woke up with pain in the morning but my nightfall tonight, it is almost all gone. I was in so much pain I was crying and could only drag my leg around all yesterday. Even today earlier in the day, there was still intense pain at times. As an herbalist, I began to question if it was not emotional rather than overdoing it when moving the stuff out. I know it is. There was so much fear for the future since he was paying us to take care of him. So we have half the income we had but I know we will make it through, even though it is scary since we are 66 and 70. We had to put him in….we physically could not handle him. It was an abrupt change from 24 hours a day for weeks to none. Emotionally and physically I was a wreck trying to care for him in the last weeks. I feel much better tonight mentally as well. I have felt drained like being hit with a mack truck for weeks”. Kate Freer 1st April 2018
“I just did these affirmations with EFT AND felt a load off of my emotions!
Also the sharp pain subsides significantly. Emotional freedom with affirmations are amazing. Thanks for sharing” December 2017
“My hips are starting to feel better already and it was truly useful when my hip was in its most extreme pain. I was looking for hip affirmations (because working directly with the physical body wasn’t working and it was very clearly linked to emotional pain). My hips are starting to feel better already and it was truly useful when my hip was in its most extreme pain. I recommend your site all the time!” Ms C. M. March 2018
“Hip Hip Hooray!!! There is one I am working on for my right hip. It is starting to show some improvement”. Ms S.D.
“Just wanted you to know how the meditation for helping me and my stomach has begun to affect my behaviour. I realise I have a habit of internalising negative emotions and, in the spirit of ‘clearing all ways in which I have stored indigestable emotions’ found myself doing something I have never done before…… I think it’s simply called standing up for yourself! Yesterday at work I felt I was unfairly treated and found myself nursing the emotional wound all night and even had a dream in which I did indeed stood up for myself. I released a lot of anger.This morning I have emailed my boss to communicate how I felt in a calm reasoned way so hope it does the job! Fingers crossed 🙂Much love M
“It was so perfect. One night recently my stomach was upset with anxiety about Pixie, my beloved kitty, who was undergoing surgery, and I listened to Barbara’s stomach mp3. It was so perfect”. Rev. Anne Presuel.
It’s great to feel I can have a relationship with my own tummy and, like a mum, comfort it as I would a child. I just wanted to thank you for the Stomach tape. I am finding it so helpful. I have had tummy troubles for couple of years now, following two bereavements and then losing my job!
You may recall I was helped immensely by your guided meditation for releasing grief and trauma so I thought I would continue the healing process by freeing myself from needing the Omezrapole medication which I take for acid reflux.
It is early days yet but I listen to the meditation tape instead of taking the medication and I know my stomach is feeling the benefit of all the loving and liberating thoughts that I am sending it. It’s great to feel I can have a relationship with my own tummy and, like a mum, comfort it as I would a child.
I do continue to take medication if symptoms dictate and am grateful for that but it is wonderfully empowering to begin the self healing process.
Thank you so much.
Much love and gratitude
“When I was done, my stomach felt fine. My stomach was bothering me a bit yesterday. So I pulled out your stomach recording and listened to it. It was great! I even drifted off into never-never land for a couple minutes. But when I was done, my stomach felt fine”. John Cali Great Western Publishing
“ I have listened to it for about a week my pain is down to a 1. I started with the free one and really enjoyed it. It gave me a nice feeling afterwards. Then I bought the heal your neck because I’ve had neck pain off and on for years. After the first time listening my pain went from a 9 (10 being the worst pain) down to a 3. That is significant. Now that I have listened to it for about a week my pain is down to a 1. The narrator has a soothing voice and the music is a nice compliment. I have even fallen asleep listening to it. I don’t usually write reviews but this is worth the money“. D.S. June 16, 2016
“Healing affirmations that are ‘spot on’. I am going through a particularly challenging period because of a wonky thyroid. These affirmations are brilliant. Barbara has chosen releasing statements empowering questions and positive healing affirmations that are ‘spot on’ in dealing with the issues related to this particular part of the body”. A Fan .
“Pain in my neck and at the base of my skull had GONE! For two days over the weekend just gone, I was in agony, I had severe pain in both sides of my neck and at the base of my skull, I thought it was due to a flare up of my fibromyalgia. So I put hot packs on my neck and took the max. dose of painkillers. I began to think I would have to see my chiropractor again!
Anyway like I told you in my last email I’d downloaded your meditations and it was that same night that I was guided to listen to your meditation on Grief & Trauma. I started to play it and as it continued I burst into tears and just kept sobbing….What a release!
After the tears I felt as though a weight had lifted from me and a lot of the pain in my neck and at the base of my skull had GONE! And that night I slept soundly which was wonderful as the previous two nights I’d hardly slept due to the agonising pain”. Mary
“Neck pain…gone! This is absolutely wonderful! I was very skeptical, but this app seems to really work wonders for all sorts is things! Neck pain…gone! Weirdly, it seems to have cured my snoring problem, I have no other explanation. I will definitely be purchasing more from the lady with the extremely soothing voice. I have been using the free app every morning for a week and I am hooked! Give it a try!“ Teresa – California
“I just listened to your skin meditation – Awesome!! I already feel more gratitude for my skin for protecting me with my “spots”. They have served me well in the bigger picture, actually. So thanks for helping me see that”. Ms C.C
“The “attack” if you will subsided and went away certainly as quickly (1/2 a minute) as the cold water. Hi Barbara, I’m a new subscriber 3/4 months, 76 years old, general health good, no medications. My most troubling health issue is skin/dermatology eg Brachioradial and probably Pruritus etc etc from mild to quite bothersome from time to time (every few days I have a good “flair” up). Prior to finding you web site I was treating my various skin conditions with various lotions and for the Brachioradial / on my arms the Best was very cold water for 4/5 minutes, actually brings immediate relief, lasting a few hours. Prior to finding your site I was using a Meditation app from Meditation Oasis and had been using it generally prior to going to bed/sleep a few times a week, I found it pretty good, but had no real long term experience a year or so with meditation. I’m sure I bumped into your site probably Googling around skin problems, issues etc etc etc. Subsequently I purchased your Beyond Affirmations most particularly Soothe Your Skin and also Healing For Your Heart.
I’d like to pass on a couple of my findings, most specifically to the Brachioradial (when it flares up it’s almost an attack) while having an “attack/itchiness/arms for what ever reason I decided instead of the cold water treatment I’d try your app, I actually used the the Relaxation and well being (15.58) introduction Meditation the “attack” if you will subsided and went away certainly as quickly (1/2 a minute) as the cold water. I’ve repeated this 20+ times in the past month eg works every time? Actually I find it more convenient than the long Soothe Your Skin, whatever works.
I wanted to pass this along because this Brachioradial can be a real problem for many seniors and there is very, very little the dermatologist really know about it or more importantly how to treat it (mine for certain is a pinched nerve in my cervical 5/6 disc). Anyway please pass along if anyone asks, one thing for certain trying what I did certainly can’t cause “any” harm”. Mr G.K.
“Awesome, Awesome, Awesome! I had some sort of bug bites on my legs that were super itchy that got healed right after meditation. Can barely see the marks today!” Ms S.G.
“I make “no” mistake about it Your Meditation has helped me immensely control this problem and that’s the simple truth.As an aside I believe you app cost me $9.98 and it’ll last my lifetime, sure beats a 10oz bottle of sticky lotion that only half works, runs out in a month and costs $20.00 + –”. Gary
“Much appreciation. I had two incidences with a swollen ankle between July and October and I wanted to get to the vibrational cause at the time. Now that I have shifted further into love it has revealed itself at at time where I can view what I was living more objectively. Much appreciation”. Ms J.A
I felt the pain receding from my foot. After breaking my foot in a fall as I was struggling with the limitations this injury placed on my life and worried about finances as I was unable to work. My anxiety was high, I was exhausted, in constant pain and feeling powerless on so many levels. Barbara’s soothing voice and calm guidance through the session gave me the space to breathe again. I can honestly say, I felt the pain receding from my foot as I tapped, my anxiety melted away, I was able to sleep soundly for the first time since my accident and my focus returned allowing me to take action towards some long held goals which I had previously not had the time for. Barbara really helped me through a very difficult time and I am extremely grateful. Allanah Hunt“. Power Freedom With Allanah Hunt.
“ The vibrational cause has revealed itself! I had two incidences with a swollen ankle between July and October and I wanted to get to the vibrational cause at the time. Now that I have shifted further into love it has revealed itself at at time where I can view what I was living more objectively. Much appreciation”. Ms J.A.
“Best night sleep I’ve had for ages and …… No headache this morning! Hi Barbara, as you know I’ve got your headache recording. I put it on last night when I got into bed and pressed repeat, best night sleep I’ve had for ages and …… No headache this morning! Xx” Ms S.T.
“Excited! Woke with headache n done your recording. Gone! Ya beauty! Thank you ! Xxx” Ms L.T.
“This is a sacred work. I just completed listening to the mp3 for headache and migraine. It is
about so much more than head pain. You’ve managed to include every kind of
negativity we, often unknowingly, carry within ourselves. Truly this is a
whole body healing experience. And you have artfully included healing of
the mind, emotions, and spirit as well. This is a sacred work”. Thank you,Chris~
“Really helping as part of treatment for PTSD it’s going really well at night sadly still having flashbacks but this app helps to calm after…so glad I’ve got this tool. ..everyone should have it just for the days life throws you off track be it a day week month or longer. ..just amazing”. Gill Young
“A lot of the pain in my neck and at the base of my skull had GONE! And that night I slept soundly which was wonderful as the previous two nights I’d hardly slept due to the agonising pain. For two days over the weekend just gone, I was in agony, I had severe pain in both sides of my neck and at the base of my skull, I thought it was due to a flare up of my fibromyalgia. So I put hot packs on my neck and took the max. dose of painkillers. I began to think I would have to see my chiropractor again!
Anyway like I told you in my last email I’d downloaded your meditations and it was that same night that I was guided to listen to your meditation on Grief & Trauma. I started to play it and as it continued I burst into tears and just kept sobbing….What a release!
I knew I was letting go of the Grief & Trauma that had been building up since my beloved husband passed over two years previous. And the things you mentioned on the meditation I really identified with and I was a little taken aback as I hadn’t realised I was holding onto such beliefs! And recently I’d left a job where I’d been bullied and was still holding onto a lot of resentment and unforgiveness towards my ex-colleagues and over the last few years many of the jobs I have undertaken, had left me feeling disappointed, hurt and lacking in confidence. So I think some of these emotions were also released! After the tears I felt as though a weight had lifted from me and a lot of the pain in my neck and at the base of my skull had GONE! And that night I slept soundly which was wonderful as the previous two nights I’d hardly slept due to the agonising pain.So THANKS AGAIN Barbara!! I will continue to listen to your Grief & Trauma meditation (& your other meditations)”. Love,Mary.
“I feel able to fully breathe for the first time in a long time. Thank you Barbara for putting these meditations out there! I just finished the release stress and anxiety one – it could have been written for me! I am going through an extremely stressful time right now. Consciously releasing the stress, fear and anxiety around my situation has been tremendous, I feel able to fully breathe for the first time in a long time. Thank you”. Ms S.G.
“Have been listening to the Grief & Trauma meditation to help after the death of my husband. I feel a real difference after just a few listens, my breathing has slowed down and the palpitations have lessened dramatically. I also feel more relaxed and less weepy”. K.R.
EFT Eases Prickly Heat Rash Quickly, Painlessly & Drug Free
A couple of days ago, I had a lovely opportunity to share the power of Emotional Freedom Technique with one of our Facebook Group members. He’d had a terrible heat rash the night before, spent the night in front of a fan with ice, antihistamines and hydrocortisone waiting for something to help. Just as the sun was coming up the itch finally started to abate. He felt dreadful as he felt he’d taken way too many antihistamines and had to cancel his beach plans with his friends. He also felt his Hay Fever was starting to kick in.
Whilst we didn’t have time for a full-blown E.F.T. Session, I asked if he’d like me to help him to try to take the edge off the remaining redness and irritation. This is what I call a kind of fire-fighting session where we don’t go deeply into all the emotional issues which are contributing to the issue, we deal with the symptoms as they present themselves in the present moment and how the person feels about having them.
I didn’t have a watch or clock so I don’t know how long it took but in just a few rounds of E.F.T. his skin irritation had completely gone! I could hear his voice and breathing had changed and he told me he felt so much more relaxed. I was delighted and he was astonished!
My E.F.T. teacher, Catherine O’Driscoll tells a story of when she first learned E.F.T. She was living in a gorgeous, huge house with very grand, impressive gardens, the only problem was, she suffered horribly from Hay Fever. She set out on her big sit-on lawn mower to cut the grass one day and her Hay Fever kicked in. She had only just received Gary Craig’s educational E.F.T. videos but decided to watch one and try E.F.T. for her Hay Fever. Later that day, she cut her grass with no sign of any Hay Fever!
I also worked with the lovely Zane Baker of Valhalla Mind on his life-long, very serious allergies. He had had allergy tests and taken all kinds of medication but his allergies affected his life really badly, even preventing him from working. You can see Zane’s story of how E.F.T. freed him from chronic breathing difficulties in this little video.
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You may have heard that emotional issues contribute to painful physical conditions but how do you know which emotions created which conditions? It can take a lot of detective work and research to find out which emotions create and contribute to physical pain. It is all based on embryology and which part of the brain affects the different areas of the body, which sounds a bit daunting! The good news is, I have done the detective work for you!
Each of my What Your Body Wants To Hear guided, healing meditations was thoroughly researched so they target the emotions most likely to be causing pain in specific areas. The words and phrases are designed to work on physical, mental and emotional levels.
Transcripts of all my meditations are freely available for you to use for your own tapping sessions.
Click the links below to find the scripts you need.
You can easily adapt these scripts for original E.F.T. tapping, by choosing one of my statements as your Set Up Statement then adding your own Reminder Phrase. Or you can just tap around all the points as you read through the statements.
With my love,
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