Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the “Wrong” Moment!

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the “Wrong” Moment!

Why Pain, Illness or Injury Strike at Exactly the “Wrong” Moment!

We’ve all been there, you’ve just landed your perfect job, perfect client, perfect romance or are about to take the trip of a life time and wham! You are knocked out by illness, chronic pain or have an “accident”! You are just about to make an important presentation or celebrate a long planned anniversary, you’re about about to help your kids move into their first home and your back goes out.

Why do these things come about at precisely the “wrong” time?

You are about to take the trip of a lifetime and are hit with a tummy bug.

You have a great career opportunity and break or sprain your ankle.

When these things happen we often curse our fate, complain about our luck or grumble about our bodies.

Are we cursed or doomed or dysfunctional in some way? Are we deliberately sabotaging ourselves or is something much deeper and wiser going on?

Those of you who know me, know how passionate I am about teaching your body is not your enemy! But if you don’t understand why these things happen or what messages they have for you, you could easily believe your body IS your enemy.

Time and time again I hear stories of this kind of thing happening and without exception, when I look at the circumstances, I can see the underlying message.

Three friends of mine broke or sprained their ankles when they had either moved to a new school and felt frightened and out of their depth. Or faced a huge change in the direction their lives were taking. I wrote in depth about ankle injuries in my article Why People Break, Sprain and Otherwise Damage Their Ankles.

Lower back pain is another great one! Job insecurity, birthdays, retirement or even children leaving home can trigger this because these occasions confront us with our own mortality. They can bring up deep layers of fear and insecurity about what lies ahead or about our standing in life. You can learn more about lower back pain in my article Healing For Your Lower Back

What’s the best thing to do when you are faced with illness, injury or accident at precisely the “wrong” moment?

The first thing to realise is that it struck at exactly the RIGHT moment! It struck to let you know that some part of you is feeling scared, is out of its comfort zone or is being reminded of a previous time it felt that way.

So often when we are making big changes in our lives, our bodies step in to tell us that an unresolved emotional issue has been triggered. Your body is actually doing you a favour! The illness or accident can give you some time to stop and think, to do the emotional work that needs to be done and to allow the rest of you to catch up with the new direction or life challenge you are facing.

How To Speed Up Your Recovery

Nurture Yourself! Be kind to yourself! The best way to speed up your recovery is to thank your body. Don’t try to fight or resist the pain. Deliberately and consciously go into the pain, let it know you are listening to it and are open to hearing what has come to teach you.

Unlock the hidden messages your body is sending you via pain, illness or injury. Join our email family and download your copy of Your Aches & Pains Have A Message For You.

Try to see the bigger picture, yes you may have been inconvenienced by it. But it provides you with a great opportunity to know yourself better, perhaps to rest and reassess your situation and to learn and grow. Your body has great wisdom, it’s much better and less painful to go with it, love and learn from it than to fight and struggle with it.

With love to all our amazing bodies,


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Talk To Your Pain

Talk To Your Pain

Talk To Your Pain

Talk To Your Pain

Talking to your pain might seem like a strange concept but I am willing to bet that you already do it!

When you become aware of your self-talk you realise that when you are in pain you tend to complain about it, if not to others, certainly to yourself. You may grumble about it, feel resentful and even angry that it prevents you from doing things you want to do.

You judge and criticise yourself and your body. You tell others what a “bad back” or “bad hip” you have and how much you suffer with it.

If you have a name for your pain, a diagnosis, it is worth remembering diagnosis is simply a word. It is just a word used to describe a symptom or symptoms showing up in the body. Diagnosis is only a name, agreed upon to identify specific symptoms.

A diagnosis only has as much power as YOU give it! When you talk about it and identify yourself with it, you give it more power, you give it more energy. When you talk about it, you are affirming you have it!

If you do any of these things, you are already talking to your pain and you are affirming it! The great news is that now that you are aware of this you can change it!

You can change it this very minute by changing the way you talk to the part of your body that is pain. Think of it as a small child, puppy or kitten scared and in pain. Instead of complaining, focus on sending it warm, loving thoughts, if you can (you might not be ready for this step yet) thank it for everything it has done for you and for the message it is sending you. By doing this you change the energy around it instantly.

If you need help knowing which words to use, look up my free affirmations and use those that resonate with you. There are over 2,500 of them so you are bound to find something that suits your situation. When you use these affirmations you are using the same words the people below used to ease their pain. Please use them freely and share them with friends and loved ones.

I am truly blessed to receive many messages from people who have used my What Your Body Wants To Hear meditations to help them change the way they speak to their bodies. Here are just a few message of how changing the way they viewed the pain and spoke to their bodies helped them.

To your health and healing,



Knee Pain

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“I bought your body wants to hear, support your knees, and surprisingly for me, it has helped my knees immensely, making most of the pain go away. I try to listen to it everyday. Because of a bad accident, my left knee hurt either a little or a lot every day. Since listening to your affirmations, it either hasn’t hurt or it hurts just a little. SO thank you very much”. ~ Mr T.

“I listened to the Support the knees 3 times and I no longer have knee pain! In fact there was a significant difference after the first listen. I have torn meniscus in both knees and don’t want to have the surgery. I still don’t want the pain. It’s pretty amazing however”. Ms. F.L.

“I want to say thanks again for making the knee meditation. I really have done a lot of different treatments, and I have Western treatment on it, and your meditation worked really fast! I had read some of the testimonials, and I was scared that although one person said it worked within three listens, and the others were positive, I was scared it wouldn’t have the same affect on me. But I was very happy and surprised that it did”. Mr T.F.

“My knee pain went away! Fabulous results when combined with E.F.T. Tapping. Highly recommended”. Ms R.D.

“Thank you Barbara Clark. I was introduced to your affirmations by a crystal healer on the Big Island of Hawaii in 2016. They have truly been life saving. I now use them in combination with reiki energy for my husband. He had partial knee replacements in 2014 and was still suffering with daily swelling. After a few weeks of your meditations – the swelling went away, rarely comes back!!!” Ms V.M.P. 28th March 2018

Hip Pain

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“A few days ago after moving my father in law to a nursing home, we had to clear out his apt. This is the apt I have taken care of him for almost a year. Clearing out his apt was filled with so many emotions. I developed almost debilitating left hip pain while moving his stuff out. Now two days later after cleaning up a day ago, I woke up with pain in the morning but my nightfall tonight, it is almost all gone. I was in so much pain I was crying and could only drag my leg around all yesterday. Even today earlier in the day, there was still intense pain at times. As an herbalist, I began to question if it was not emotional rather than overdoing it when moving the stuff out. I know it is. There was so much fear for the future since he was paying us to take care of him. So we have half the income we had but I know we will make it through, even though it is scary since we are 66 and 70. We had to put him in….we physically could not handle him. It was an abrupt change from 24 hours a day for weeks to none. Emotionally and physically I was a wreck trying to care for him in the last weeks. I feel much better tonight mentally as well. I have felt drained like being hit with a mack truck for weeks”. Kate Freer 1st April 2018

I just did these affirmations with EFT AND felt a load off of my emotions!
Also the sharp pain subsides significantly. Emotional freedom with affirmations are amazing. Thanks for sharingDecember 2017

“I was looking for hip affirmations (because working directly with the physical body wasn’t working and it was very clearly linked to emotional pain). My hips are starting to feel better already and it was truly useful when my hip was in its most extreme pain. I recommend your site all the time! Ms C. M. March 2018

“Hip Hip Hooray!!! There is one I am working on for my right hip. It is starting to show some improvement. Ms S.D.

Swollen Ankles

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“I had two incidences with a swollen ankle between July and October and I wanted to get to the vibrational cause at the time. Now that I have shifted further into love it has revealed itself at at time where I can view what I was living more objectively. Much appreciation. Ms J.A.

Personal Stories about Back Pain 

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Exam Stress – It’s Not In Your Head, It’s In Your Body!

Exam Stress – It’s Not In Your Head, It’s In Your Body!

Exam Stress – It’s Not In Your Head, It’s In Your Body!

Practical Calming & Coping Techniques to Ease Exam Stress

We tend to think of exam stress as being in our heads, as we try to cram as much information into our brains as possible. But like any other anxiety it can trigger our Flight, Fight or Freeze response and that happens in the nervous system, in our body, in our cells. That’s why addressing stress from a purely intellectual angle is pretty ineffectual; we are not dealing with the feelings where they actually are – in our bodies!

That is why techniques like What Your Body Wants To Hear, Emotional Freedom Techniques and other energy therapies are so much better at easing stress than simply talking about it, trying to “feel the fear and do it anyway” or “facing your fears” etc. We have to acknowledge, love and ease our bodies and our subconscious minds to find and feel a place of peace.

Practical Calming & Coping Techniques to Ease Exam Stress


It’s coming up to exam time here so I wanted to share something that can help everyone suffering with exam and revision nerves and anxiety. How I wish I had had these tools all those years ago when I was facing my first big exams!

We’ve all felt it, your heart is racing, stomach churning and mind completely blank! All your fight, flight and freeze instincts are competing against each other and you are in blind panic. You can’t even see straight, far less read, comprehend and complete an exam paper!

Writing this, I am transported back in time to the 30th of April 1978, the night before my first Ordinary Grade exam.  In Scotland, these were the big exams we’d been warned about all through Secondary School; the big ones that would shape the rest of your life – no pressure there then!

We had an aunt staying with us and were moving house just before these exams. I was not fond of this aunt, she had a habit of coming into my room as I was revising, telling me I was lazy and throwing things from one side of the room into packing boxes at the other side of the room.

She didn’t believe girls needed a good education as her sons had “done alright without it”.  In contrast, my parents were obsessive about education, believing that it was the only way to get ahead in life. So much so, that they had sent my sister and I to a fee paying school at the beginning of my second year (the trauma of that is a story for another day).

The 1st of May 1978 saw the first of these exams, my very worst subject – arithmetic! ARGH.  It is no exaggeration to say that on the evening of the 30th of April I was officially hysterical. The mad aunt insisted I would be okay if I prayed to St. Anthony, who apparently helps you find things 🙂  I think my finding the correct answers to arithmetic questions would have taken an army of saints, it just wasn’t going to happen.  It felt like the end of the world.

How I wish I’d known some of the amazing calming and coping techniques we have nowadays back then.

“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it”. – Wayne Dyer.

Whilst I agree with Dr Dyer, stress and anxiety certainly feel real and those thoughts create physical symptoms.

The body is unable to tell the difference between real and imaginary events. When we focus on our fears, it plays as much havoc with our hormones and chemical imbalance as when we confront a dangerous situation in real life. Images may just be in your mind but they trigger an instant response in your body.The components of anxiety, stress, fear and anger do not exist independently of you in the world. They simply do not exist in the physical world, even though we talk about them as if they do.

As parents and teachers the biggest gift we can give young people facing exam stress is a practical, physical, calming technique and Emotional Freedom Technique ticks all those boxes remarkably successfully.  If you are not familiar with E.F.T this is a great introductory video by it’s founder, Gary Craig.

Learning E.F.T truly changes lives, it can change yours and those of your loved ones. Gary Craig has produced a huge number of free resources so you can lean E.F.T. for free.  If you need more support or would like some personal sessions I am always happy to discuss whether E.F.T. can help you. Just pop over and  book your free Skype Consultation with me.

If you are already familiar with E.F.T. or just want some calming affirmations pop over to my Release Stress & Anxiety Affirmations page and read or tap along with the script you find there. Release and replace those fear-full thoughts and anxiety with peaceful, empowering and loving messages, the healing messages your body wants to hear. Download our FREE Release, Heal & Transform Fear MP3

Please share this article and our free Release, Heal & Transform Fear MP3 with friends and loved ones suffering the very real physical, mental and emotional anguish of exam stress.

If you are wondering how my arithmetic exam went, I failed it miserably. Strangely enough, life went on and I went on to excel in two subjects I loved and which I use in my work to this day, English and Biology.  🙂






The Best Way To Prepare For 2018 And Help The Planet!

The Best Way To Prepare For 2018 And Help The Planet!

The Best Way To Prepare For 2018 And Help The Planet!

Top Tips To Prepare For 2018

affirmations to heal the heart of the empath

2018 is a year of rising heart energy, a year where the feminine energy and the energy of no more secrets continues to rise. While we may have thought, imagined or fantasised about what that would look like, it doesn’t look the way we imagined it would!

As empaths, sensitives and lightworkers we know what is really going on. We feel energy and see the bigger picture but even knowing that, we can sometimes lose our focus and get sucked into the energies of fear, conflict, separation and dissonance. So what are the best things to do to prepare for 2018?

Heal Your Own Emotional Wounds Now!

In order to be as effective in playing the part you came here to play at this time of huge transition, you need to be in good emotional shape yourself. If we don’t take care of ourselves first we can fall into blame, judgement, anger, frustration, self-pity, depression and a whole host of other dark places. So please think about that, are there any areas that you still need to heal in yourself? If there are, now is the time to recognise and attend to them with love and compassion (no beating yourself up or self-judgement!).

Make Sure Your Own Emotional Boundaries are Strong and Healthy

Being so attuned to other people’s feelings and emotions, empaths, sensitives and lightworkers are often unaware of where their boundaries end and other people’s begin. We often take on other people’s issues and fears and we aren’t even aware of it. This can be devastating to our sense of well-being and balance, you can’t remain heart-centred when your (or what you think are your) emotions are all over the place!

Stop Trying To Get Others To Understand You

This has been part of the life path of so many of us! So many of us have felt misunderstood all our lives. We have tried relentlessly to get people to understand us and for most of us, it hasn’t worked! What if simply being yourself and forgetting what other people think of you was enough?

Remember That Your Light and Energy Are Making A Profound Difference

When we feel we are small and powerless it is easy to forget that we are here for a reason and that our presence on the planet at this time truly does make a difference. This is true whether you are on a deliberate spiritual path or you simply spread your love, compassion, wisdom as you go about your daily life. Your light is much more powerful and important than you ever imagined!

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Shake Off Fear

Fear and hiding constrict and diminish us on all levels. Fear causes us to become smaller, it silences us and appears to make us safer. After all, if we can’t be seen or heard we are less likely to be attacked. On a human level this makes perfect sense, however on an emotional, spiritual and physical level there is a huge price to pay for constriction. Just think what can happen to your heart if your arteries constrict! For help to step out of fear download my free Release, Heal & Transform Fear guided meditation on the Release, Heal & Transform mobile app. or as an MP3.

Love Your Own Heart First

Use your own love to heal your own heart. So many of us have decided that being an empath or sensitive soul is challenging and painful. We can attribute any meaning we like to anything! So why not decide that being an empath is an incredibly wonderful and powerful thing rather than believing it is a weakness or curse?

Bring More Love into the World

Bringing more love into the world couldn’t be simpler and it starts with you. Send your own powerful love to you own heart by putting your hand on your heart and telling it how much you love it.

Listen to an excerpt of Healing For Your Heart

The Best Way To Prepare For 2018 And Help The Planet!

The best way to prepare for 2018 and help the planet usher in the rising heart energy is to spend any free time you have from now until the New Year, healing your own wounds, giving your love to your own heart. From the time you read this until 2018 (and hopefully beyond!) treat yourself as you would treat a beloved child, lover or pet. That is the very best way you can prepare for 2018.

If you need help healing and sending love to your own heart, I have created a special package, Healing The Heart of the Empath to help you rebuild your self-confidence, heal your heart, trust your creativity and intuition and most importantly realise just how important your presence is on the planet at this time of huge transition.

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