There Is No Mine Or Yours, There is Only Ours

There Is No Mine Or Yours, There is Only Ours


My thanks to Facebook page Zen to Zany for this lovely image.

This lovely image was one of the first things I saw on my FB news feed this morning. It was rather interesting or “coincidental” as I’d been thinking of writing this article through the night.

There is no yours or mine, there is no ownership. I was thinking about this when I received some wonderful feed back about my latest What Your Body Wants To Hear programme Release Grief & Trauma.

A lovely lady told me she’d very much enjoyed it when she used it for herself. She had also used it in a slightly different way than I’d anticipated when I created it. She had used it to send healing to others who she knew were suffering from the issues covered in the recording. What a wonderful idea and not one I’d thought of.

The constraints of language and the interests of clarity and brevity led me to call myself the “creator” of the W.Y.B.W.H. process but I actually don’t believe that.

When I feel inspired to write a programme I feel pulled towards it, it comes alive in me. The words flow and mostly it is very easy. In other words it comes through me.

Often when a great invention appears on the planet more than one person has been working on the idea. In our old energy, competitive human world, someone then rushes to grab the patent But that is not the aspect I want to discuss. I believe more than one person is inspired to explore along similar lines because the time and need for that invention or idea to manifest on the planet is here. The idea does not belong to anyone, the potential exists and the person who is in the right vibration at the right time brings it through.

There is a lot of discussion about lack of ownership, increased co-operation, co-creation and a new way of being at the moment and I find it incredibly exciting.

In his recent channels, Story Waters has been talking about lack of ownership, openness, no more secrets. Steve Rother has been saying similar things about restrictive copyright rules and no more secrets. Kryon has also talked about it. Gregg Braden is talking about the wisdom of the indigenous, of new ways of being in community and Bruce Lipton has been explaining how our cells live in cooperative community.

The same core message is coming from or through many people. Each with their own unique perspective and delivery in order to reach and resonate with as many people as possible.

So when this lovely lady told me how she’d used my work I was absolutely delighted. Just as I was delighted when Richard Flook was happy to hear that I had integrated some of his work in to my own. Except there we go again, the constraints of language. It is not my own. I simply brought it through in a particular way, a particular vibration and flavour for others to use, benefit from and adapt if they feel inspired to do so.

With love and deep gratitude,





BarbaraAs I promised in my post “Free Transcripts for Tapping or Meditation & What’s New”

I am making all my meditation transcripts freely available, it’s just a case of getting time to publish them all.  Below is the Support Your Stomach script.

Emotionally speaking, the stomach is often misunderstood. It does a huge job for us and can often be sensitive. The stomach is generally where we store fear and anxiety.  That “stomach churning” sensation is often an indication of anxiety.  We can also store acidic or corrosive emotions, such as anger or insecurity in our stomachs. This can result in acidic health conditions, when we just can’t stomach the situation any longer.

Here is what some people have said about their experience with the What Your Body Wants To Hear: Support Your Stomach programme.

“Oh, Barbara, I just listened to your stomach affirmations… my tummy was feeling upset tonight (unusual for me), and it is so beautiful! You do such a fabulous job with them! And it’s so funny that the Thaddeus song is my favorite one, too! It’s the one I use on my Unlimited Wealth CD.”

Rev Anne Presuel

Divinely Intuitive Business

“Hi Barbara,
My stomach was bothering me a bit yesterday. So I pulled out your stomach recording and listened to it. It was great! I even drifted off into never-never land for a couple minutes. But when I was done, my stomach felt fine. I’m going to listen to it again today. So I wanted to tell you that.

You can download the Support Your Stomach Programme here .

It is also available on our new app.

To read more about the theories behind why this process is so effective please visit us here

I sincerely hope you enjoy and benefit from this transcript.

With Love,


With every breath I take, I am sending, love and gratitude to every single cell in my body.Yes, yes, yes, yes…

Every part of me is getting the optimum benefit from this exercise! Yes, yes, yes…

With every breath I take, I am sending love, gratitude and healing to my stomach! Yes, yes, yes…

I release any fear I have stored in my stomach! Yes, yes, yes…

I release any anger I have stored in my stomach!

I release any worry I have stored in my stomach!

I release any feelings of condemnation I have stored in my stomach!

I release any conflict I have stored in my stomach!

I release any frustration I have stored in my stomach!

I release any feelings of helplessness I have stored in my stomach!

I release any anxiety I have stored in my stomach!

I release any feelings of revenge I have stored in my stomach!

I release any feelings of insecurity I have stored in my stomach!

I release any grief I have stored in my stomach!

I release any irritation I have stored in my stomach!

I release any longings I have stored in my stomach!

I release any lack of worthiness I have stored in my stomach!

I release any guilt I have stored in my stomach!

I release any shame I have stored in my stomach!

I release any and all corrosive emotions I have stored in my stomach!

I release any feelings of powerlessness I have stored in my stomach!

I clear all the ways I harbour worry in my stomach!

I clear all the ways I can no longer stomach this situation!

I release any feelings of rejection I am carrying in my stomach!

I clear all the ways I am feeling so acidic!

I clear all the ways I am trying to swallow down painful emotions!

I release the belief that I am eaten up with worry!

I release the belief that I just can’t digest things!

I release and completely let go of the idea that I have a bad stomach. I now recognise that my stomach is doing the very best it can to support me!

Why do I feel so peaceful?

Why do I feel so loving?

Why do I feel so accepting?

Why do I feel so safe?

Why do I feel so reassured now?

Why do I feel so forgiving now?

Why do I feel so allowing?

Why do I feel so supported?

Why do I feel worthy now??

Why is it safe now for me to enjoy going with the flow?

Why is it so ease to digest with ease?

Why do I no longer carry that old corrosive stuff anymore?

Why do I feel so calm and centred now?

Why was it so easy to forgive the past and go with the flow?

My stomach easily digests and absorbs all the nourishment and love I need!

I have a healthy digestive system!

I receive and give, easily and effortlessly!

I am content, peaceful and fullfilled!

Nothing “eats me up” anymore!

It is easy for me to express and release my emotions!

I no longer try to “swallow down” indigestible emotions”!

It was easy and safe to stop holding on and to let go of everything that no longer serves me!

I let go and move forward, I am free!

I am safe and secure!

I am loved and supported!

I lovingly allow love, joy and good health to flow through my mind and body!

My stomach is peaceful, calm and healthy!

My stomach supports me easily and effortlessly!

I no longer store acidic thoughts or emotions in my stomach!

I am safe and loved and totally supported!

It is safe to embrace change!

I let go of control. I trust and go with the flow!

I deserve to be pain free!

I am accepting, peaceful and loving!

I no longer carry any responsibilities that are not mine!

I willingly release the past, it is safe for me to let you. I am free!

I am thriving!

I am healthy!

I am strong and fit!

I love this new feeling of peaceful freedom!

I relax and let go of the pressure!

I am worthy and loved!

I am trusting, reassured and secure!

I am peaceful, forgiving and loving!

My self esteem and confidence are soaring now!

I move forward, leaving the past behind with confidence and joy!

I have a good stomach!

Actually, I have a great stomach!

Thank you, stomach, for everything you do for me!

I am Peace.

I am Love.

All Is Well!











It’s a sad fact that seeking an “alternative” healing practitioner is a last resort for many people. I have worked with people who could go no further down the conventional route. Conventional medicine had literally given up on them and told them “there is nothing more we can do for you”.

That is a terrifying prospect for people who are in pain and who believed M.D.’s were, to quote Deepak Chopra, “Medical Deities”. It also means that alternative practitioners are only consulted when things have become pretty dire. We don’t get to start on a level playing field. I often imagine the results we could achieve if we were consulted earlier.

The U.K. and U.S. have very different health care systems neither of which are very empowering. In both systems it is very easy to be sucked in to a victim mentality and to feel that you have no control over your treatment or lack of healing results.

One of the biggest pit-falls of both systems is that we give our power away. We feel powerless and helpless, are often in pain and feeling at our most vulnerable. When you are in that mindset it can be nigh on impossible to believe that you are creating your situation and reality. The very idea can make people upset and angry.

If you are able to open your mind even a tiny bit, perhaps listen to a half hour meditation in the privacy of your bed as you fall asleep. You can tap in to your inner knowing and strength, let go of fear and move towards taking charge of your own healing.

This article was inspired by an 84 year old lady I worked with last night. Three other incredibly brave and wonderful elderly ladies are also in my mind as I write and I thank them for trusting me and giving me the honour of working with them. I love you all – you are incredible!










Whether we are talking about healing, forgiveness or deliberate creation of any kind. There is a tendency for our minds to kick in and try to use the power of the will to create what we want.

This I believe is where the “War on” attitude our society is so fond of came from. Since Richard Nixon popularised the term back in 1971 we have wars on drugs, cancer, child abuse, poverty, crime. You name it, we have a war on it. We haven’t won any of them and we’re never going to.

As long as we perpetuate the idea that we are at war, we add to the energy of war. Conflict and striving against is not the energy that brings peace, prosperity or healing.

With my passion for healing, I cringe every time I hear about the war on cancer for example. Without going in to detail, since Ronald Regan declared the “War on Cancer” in 1975 America has spent over two trillion dollars trying to end the war i.e. develop a cure. The methods have changed very little and still include chemotherapy, developed from Nitrogen Mustard Gas a chemical warfare agent used in the First and Second World Wars. It’s obvious by now that war analogies and will power don’t work.

So what is the difference between will and intention?

The language of “must”, “should”, “strive”, “fight” etc. comes from the ego. Your mind will speak to you that way, your soul won’t. Your soul communicates with you through loving, gentle, inspirational impulses.

As Robert Schwartz explains, “If I have a bow and arrow and my objective is to shoot the arrow to the centre of a target, can I will the arrow to the centre of the target? No, I can’t. Can I intend the arrow to hit the centre of the target? Yes of course I can. Can you feel the difference between these two things?” Will power is a constricted energetic state. Intention contains a lot more gentleness and kindness and it is expansive.

You create healing and anything else you want through gentle, kind intention. Not through beating yourself up and saying “I have to…!”

I was absolutely delighted when someone wrote this about my work. “But I’ve found out your work is not about trying to “overcome” something or even to heal something “wrong.” Your work is intended to promote well-being.”

This lady really understood, it’s not about fighting, it’s about setting a loving, gentle intention and allowing.









They say we teach that which we most need to learn and I believe that’s true. So many healers and teachers set out to heal themselves then find themselves teaching others. That’s just how it seems to work.

I have always been my own guinea pig, my own experiment. Before I recommend any therapy or teacher you can rest assured I’ve tried it myself.

The other day I had an interesting lesson. Something I’d overlooked and not used my own process or teachings on – my fingers!

When I get cold, my fingers turn numb and white. It can be quite painful when they warm up and the feeling comes back. It also freaks people out when they see it. I first remember it happening when I was 16 and although people have given me all kinds of dire warnings, I am still around to tell the tale.

At one point when I moved from a centrally heated house to one where the only heating was an open fire and I had to get coal and wood in no matter what the weather, my fingers were really bad and I took Ginko biloba and Ginger to great effect.

Over the years I kind of forgot about it but the weather was bitingly cold. My gloves were wet from throwing the ball for Finn and my fingers were frozen.

It suddenly dawned on me – talk to them! Not rocket science considering my work and very surprising that I hadn’t thought of it before, because I truly do live what I teach – usually :).

I apologised to my fingers for forgetting about them and leaving them out in the cold, literally!

I reminded myself that my fingers are part of me and thanked them. I reminded myself that my body knows how to send blood to my fingers. I asked my body to send more blood to warm my fingers up. I envisaged warm, healthy, loving blood being pumped to my fingers. I welcomed my fingers back in to the fold, apologised and thanked them. I can’t say how long it took, but it wasn’t long before they started to warm up. When I took the wet gloves off my fingers were perfectly pink.

Almost immediately my toes felt cold. I have never had a problem with them before, but they seemed to want to get in on the act and have loving thoughts and warm blood directed to them. I simply repeated the process and warmed them up too.

Is there a part of you that you are leaving out in the cold?

Might it benefit from some love, kind thoughts and words?







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