E.F.T. Tapping When Your Baby Is In An Incubator
As a parent there can be few things that make you feel more helpless and useless than when your premature or sick baby is whisked off in an incubator! You have to stand back whilst your baby is put on a ventilator, wired up to noisy monitors, poked, prodded and subjected to painful and invasive procedures. Your entire being; your biology, your heart and soul are screaming out to love, nurture and protect this precious little scrap, yet you can do nothing! As a new mother, every nerve, sinew and hormone is programmed to hold, love and nurture the new arrival,. You know all the interventions, as painful as many of them are, could be life saving. So you have to stand back, let strangers take over and somehow keep a lid on your viscerally raw emotions and instincts, your baby’s life depends on those strangers and there is absolutely nothing you can do.
Or is there?
Back in 1992 when I faced this situation, there was nothing I could do. I didn’t know Emotional Freedom Technique or Reiki. I had no way of soothing myself far less helping my daughter. A bit later we were allowed to put our hands in the incubator, find a tiny piece of flesh which didn’t have a monitor or cannula on it and touch her but that didn’t compensate for not being able to pick her up, hold her or feed her.
Back then, like millions of other parents, I used will-power and determination to get through the long days and nights and continue to function. Many medical staff complimented me on how well I coped. Of course I wasn’t really coping, I was simply repressing painful emotions which is never healthy and brings it’s own problems further down the line!
Emotional Freedom Technique is definitely number one on my list of things I wish I’d known back then!
How You Can Help Yourself and Your Baby With Surrogate E.F.T. Tapping
It’s wonderful to see Emotional Freedom Technique becoming more widely known and accepted. It is very quick and easy to learn and amazingly effective even in the hands of complete beginners. Not all teachers know, or will tell you, that E.F.T. can also be done surrogately. You can tap on behalf of someone else even when you are not with them.
As we are using loving intention and energy, time and distance don’t matter. You can tap for your baby no matter where you are!
I won’t speculate on how or why this works, there are many different theories and for the purposes of this article, all I care about is that it helps someone out there.
Firstly Soothe Your Self!
We often project our fears onto others. In such a traumatic situation as the birth of a premature or sick baby you have to soothe yourself first. We are no use to anyone else when we are in deep trauma and shock ourselves. Your baby feels your emotions and energy so by soothing yourself you also help her.
Three Ways to Tap On Behalf of Your Baby
Tune in to your baby and tap for whatever you feel or can see is upsetting or traumatising them. The obvious ones are of course, pain, fear, isolation and any painful medical interventions.
1. Tap On Your Own Body As Yourself
Simply tap as you normally would, but rather than state you have the problem, use the baby’s name for your set up statement. “Even though (baby’s name or my baby) has this problem (state problem) I deeply and completely love and accept (baby’s name). Do the same with your reminder phrase.
2. Tap On Your Own Body As Your Baby
Similar to the method above but sometimes this helps you tune into how your baby is feeling more accurately. Bearing in mind how connected you are with your newborn it’s not surprising that you often feel exactly what they are feeling. Set your intention that you are your baby, then tap around as though you are the baby. “Even though I have this problem” etc. Remember to disconnect and come back to yourself when you are done.
3. Using A Proxy Item To Represent Your Baby
This can be a really useful way to help you focus. Any teddy bear, doll or other toy will do. Simply intend the toy to represent your baby and tap around the points as normal.
The Question of Permission
As a parent you only have the highest and best intentions for your child, your heart and intent are pure and loving. In the higher realms we are all connected, we are all love, we are all one. If you feel the need to ask the baby’s higher self or soul for permission do so but I truly don’t think anything done from such love, care and compassion can ever cause harm.
If You Are New To Emotional Freedom Technique or would just like a refresher, watch this great 3-minute video by the lovely Sharon Smith.