The first time I read Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” I didn’t like it!
I disliked it intensely and quite vociferously for many years.
How could I dislike something which later became one of the cornerstones of my own “What Your Body Wants To Hear” work? Those of you who have followed my work or heard my interview “Your Body Is Not Your Enemy” on Soul Searching Radio know that I greatly value this hugely famous best seller nowadays. Many of my fellow therapists and friends refer to it as “the bible” and all my healing meditations are based on the theories found in it.
Let me explain my turnaround.
When I first read “You Can Heal Your Life” I was already working as an Emotional Freedom Technique practitioner. That led me to look for and clear the emotional traumas which always underlie a physical or emotional symptom or psychological block. We worked with the subconscious mind and the energy system to clear these completely and only then introduced positive statements or affirmations.
Many of the people who come to E.F.T. practitioners are already beaten down by feelings of failure. Some have even been abandoned by conventional medicine and come to us a last resort. So when I saw a book which told people to repeat a positive statement over and over and over and expect to get results without first addressing the underlying emotional causes of their problem, I saw it as an opportunity for these vulnerable people to fail yet again. That was why I disliked it!
However, the theory and probable emotional cause of physical symptoms listed in “You Can Heal Your Life” has always been spot on! I have never had a symptom or known anyone else to have a symptom for which the emotional explanation in that book has been incorrect. Never! Not once! I even had a friend who worked as a nurse in numerous hospitals who said the same. She’d never come across a patient who, upon getting to know them better, was not exhibiting symptoms which correlated perfectly with their emotional state. Never! Not once!
The main cause of my dislike for this book was the frustration of knowing that if it was combined with E.F.T. tapping or some other Meridian Energy Therapy it would be pure gold. And it is! I was delighted when Louise discovered and championed E.F.T. She too recognised the amazing healing power of putting her theory and E.F.T together.
My own “What Your Body Wants To Hear” series of healing meditations uses releasing statements, empowering questions then positive affirmations in sequence. Like “You Can Heal Your Life” it is made even more powerful by tapping along to the audios or scripts.
If you are new to the idea that your emotions create your physical pain it can feel very strange at first. Many people struggle against the idea that they have created their pain and that they can heal it. It can be a tough and sometimes lonely journey until you find your tribe. In the meantime “You Can Heal Your Life” can bring you a great deal of clarity, hope and support. It’s still sitting by my side all these years later.
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You’re stressed. We’re stressed. Everyone’s stressed. Because it’s so common, you might think that if you’re not lying on the floor from exhaustion, you’re probably fine. But stress has an insidious way of creeping up on you, and it’s not just a mental or emotional issue—stress symptoms can impact the body in some very visible ways.
Stress and other negative emotions are consistently linked to poor physical health in more than 150,000 people in 142 countries. That’s because the mind and body are intrinsically connected. Your body is unable to tell the difference between reality and imagination. So when you focus on your fears it creates as much havoc with your hormones, body chemistry and energy field as it would if you were facing a dangerous situation in real life.
“When the fight or flight nervous system is switched on and stays on because of chronic stress, the body utilises all its energy reserves to deal with the constant stress it perceives from the outer environment. Therefore, the body has no energy left it its inner environment for growth and repair, compromising the immune system.” ~Joe Dispenza
Your thoughts create an instant reaction in your body. Emotional stress alerts the body to produce stress chemicals such as cortisol, which—if produced on an ongoing basis—begin to break down the immune, gastrointestinal, neurological, and musculoskeletal systems.
Affirmations to Release Stress & Anxiety
With every breath I take, I am sending love and gratitude to every single cell in my body! Yes! Yes” Yes!
With every breath I take, I am sending, love, gratitude and healing to my mind and body!
Releasing the Negative Emotions Causing Your Stress & Anxiety
I release all the ways I feel stressed!
I release all the ways I feel anxious!
I release all the ways I feel overwhelmed!
I release all the tension I am holding in my body!
I release all the worry and fear I feel!
I release all the tension I am holding in my body!
I release all this anxiety!
I release all this worry!
I release all the ways I feel depressed!
I release all the ways I feel nervous!
I release all the ways I feel under attack!
I release all the ways I feel defensive!
I release all the ways I feel conflicted!
I release all the ways I feel uncertain!
I release all the fears I have about my future!
I release all the ways I feel so scared!
I release all the ways I do not feel safe!
I release all the ways I feel uneasy!
I release all the ways I feel panic!
I release all the ways I feel powerless!
I release all the ways I feel deeply vulnerable!
I release all the fear and anxiety I have stored in my cells!
I release all the fear and anxiety I have stored in my muscles and ligaments!
I release all the fear and anxiety I have stored in my stomach!
I clear all the ways I feel out of control!
I clear all the ways this fear has got me by the throat!
I clear all the ways my body is contracted by fear and anxiety!
I clear all the ways this stress affects my hormonal and chemical balance!
I clear all the ways this stress affects my immune system!
I clear all the ways this stress affects my blood pressure!
I clear all the ways this stress affects my heart!
I clear all the ways I am not in control of my life!
I clear all the ways my thoughts and feelings are at war!
I clear and release all the fear and anxiety I have stored throughout my body!
I clear and release all the physical symptoms this stress is causing!
I clear all the ways I can’t stop these thoughts going round and round in my head!
I clear all the ways I focus on my fears!
I clear all the ways I am so shaky and scared!
I clear all the ways I don’t trust!
I clear all the ways any part of me believes I have a chemical imbalance!
I clear all the ways I get dizzy with anxiety!
I clear all the ways I am a bag of nerves!
I clear all the ways I believe that fear keeps me safe!
Worrying is paving the way for things I do not want. I let go of worry once and for all!
I clear and completely release, any and all ways, I am holding on to fear-full thoughts of stress, worry and anxiety!
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As a parent there can be few things that make you feel more helpless and useless than when your premature or sick baby is whisked off in an incubator! You have to stand back whilst your baby is put on a ventilator, wired up to noisy monitors, poked, prodded and subjected to painful and invasive procedures. Your entire being; your biology, your heart and soul are screaming out to love, nurture and protect this precious little scrap, yet you can do nothing! As a new mother, every nerve, sinew and hormone is programmed to hold, love and nurture the new arrival,. You know all the interventions, as painful as many of them are, could be life saving. So you have to stand back, let strangers take over and somehow keep a lid on your viscerally raw emotions and instincts, your baby’s life depends on those strangers and there is absolutely nothing you can do.
Or is there?
Back in 1992 when I faced this situation, there was nothing I could do. I didn’t know Emotional Freedom Technique or Reiki. I had no way of soothing myself far less helping my daughter. A bit later we were allowed to put our hands in the incubator, find a tiny piece of flesh which didn’t have a monitor or cannula on it and touch her but that didn’t compensate for not being able to pick her up, hold her or feed her.
Back then, like millions of other parents, I used will-power and determination to get through the long days and nights and continue to function. Many medical staff complimented me on how well I coped. Of course I wasn’t really coping, I was simply repressing painful emotions which is never healthy and brings it’s own problems further down the line!
Emotional Freedom Technique is definitely number one on my list of things I wish I’d known back then!
How You Can Help Yourself and Your Baby With Surrogate E.F.T. Tapping
It’s wonderful to see Emotional Freedom Technique becoming more widely known and accepted. It is very quick and easy to learn and amazingly effective even in the hands of complete beginners. Not all teachers know, or will tell you, that E.F.T. can also be done surrogately. You can tap on behalf of someone else even when you are not with them.
As we are using loving intention and energy, time and distance don’t matter. You can tap for your baby no matter where you are!
I won’t speculate on how or why this works, there are many different theories and for the purposes of this article, all I care about is that it helps someone out there.
Firstly Soothe Your Self!
We often project our fears onto others. In such a traumatic situation as the birth of a premature or sick baby you have to soothe yourself first. We are no use to anyone else when we are in deep trauma and shock ourselves. Your baby feels your emotions and energy so by soothing yourself you also help her.
Three Ways to Tap On Behalf of Your Baby
Tune in to your baby and tap for whatever you feel or can see is upsetting or traumatising them. The obvious ones are of course, pain, fear, isolation and any painful medical interventions.
1. Tap On Your Own Body As Yourself
Simply tap as you normally would, but rather than state you have the problem, use the baby’s name for your set up statement. “Even though (baby’s name or my baby) has this problem (state problem) I deeply and completely love and accept (baby’s name). Do the same with your reminder phrase.
2. Tap On Your Own Body As Your Baby
Similar to the method above but sometimes this helps you tune into how your baby is feeling more accurately. Bearing in mind how connected you are with your newborn it’s not surprising that you often feel exactly what they are feeling. Set your intention that you are your baby, then tap around as though you are the baby. “Even though I have this problem” etc. Remember to disconnect and come back to yourself when you are done.
3. Using A Proxy Item To Represent Your Baby
This can be a really useful way to help you focus. Any teddy bear, doll or other toy will do. Simply intend the toy to represent your baby and tap around the points as normal.
The Question of Permission
As a parent you only have the highest and best intentions for your child, your heart and intent are pure and loving. In the higher realms we are all connected, we are all love, we are all one. If you feel the need to ask the baby’s higher self or soul for permission do so but I truly don’t think anything done from such love, care and compassion can ever cause harm.
Our immune systems are designed to recognise and eliminate viruses, bacteria and other foreign invaders. For the most part they do an amazing job! However, our immune systems can become less effective when we are under pressure, feel like giving up, are pushing too hard, feel insecure, threatened or manipulated. If you are feeling under the weather, check to see if you are feeling any of those emotions. That will give you ideas for what to tap on. But you can start boosting your immune system right now by tapping on the following the suggestions.
If you have symptoms of illness, pain or discomfort, use those in your set up statement as you tap on your Side of Hand Point. For example, “Even though I have this cold, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself”. Repeat this three times then tap the Eyebrow Point gently, around ten times, saying “I have this cold”. Move to the Side Of Eye point and repeat, “I have this cold”. Repeat this at all the tapping points finishing off with the Top of Your Head point.
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If you don’t have any symptoms but want to give your immune system a boost try tapping a few rounds saying these, or similar statements:- “I know my immune system is doing the most amazing job and I deeply and completely love, accept and thank my immune system”. “My immune system is fabulous, it knows exactly what it is doing and it keeps me healthy and well. I deeply and completely love and thank my immune system”. “My immune system is powerful, wise and strong. I am grateful to my fantastic immune system and I deeply and completely love, accept and thank my wonderful immune system for keeping me safe and healthy”. “My immune system is doing the most fantastic job protecting me from all those viruses and bacteria and I deeply and completely love, accept and thank my amazing immune system, thank you, immune system, for everything you do for me”.
So you’ve watched The Secret, listened to Kryon, Abraham Hicks and other spiritual teachers. You’ve read Louise L. Hay’s Your Can Heal Your Life and watched the way Dr Emoto’s water crystals react to the power of words! You Believe!
You believe you can heal yourself by the power of your words and intention, but feel ridiculous talking to yourself or don’t know what to say. You believe your emotions are causing your discomfort, pain or life challenges but have no idea which emotions they are or how to heal them.
You may have heard of Energy Medicine, Emotional Freedom Technique, Tapas Accupressure Technique, Divine Love Healing and many others, but don’t have time to study any of them in enough depth to take yourself through an effective self-healing session.
I understand! I was once in your shoes! I believed, but didn’t know where to start. Life had to take me to such a low point that I could hardly walk to make me pay attention and deal with the underlying emotional causes.
You don’t have to fall so low or suffer so much. I have put the words together for you! All you have to do is read or listen to them. This will help you break the habit of self-sabotaging, fearful self-talk and teach you to speak kindly to your body. You will be astonished by how quickly your body responds to your new peaceful, loving, kind, healing words.