The Hidden Dynamics Behind Social Eating & How You Can Change Them!

The Hidden Dynamics Behind Social Eating & How You Can Change Them!

The Hidden Dynamics Behind Social Eating

(And How You CAN Change Them!)

Hidden Dynamics Behind Social Eating

“By changing her inner-world, energy and attitude and without saying a word, my client’s inner changes changed the dynamics of the evening.”

When I first started as an Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner I specialised in weight issues, both on a one to one basis and running groups.

I have written before about some of the fascinating reasons people don’t lose weight until their emotional issues are discovered and dealt with. What Was Going On In Your Life The Last Time You Were at Your Ideal Weight?

Today I want to write about the unseen dynamics that go on around social eating. Eating together is one of the most enjoyable, bonding, sharing experiences we can have but if you have emotional issues around over-eating, it can be very challenging.

If you approach social eating without having addressed your underlying emotional issues, you are going to struggle – to say the least.

One mother of two young children I spoke with (but didn’t work with!) explained that she had signed up for a very expensive meal delivery service. This service sent her calorie controlled meals every day. She didn’t have to think about what to buy or cook and she didn’t have to count the calories, so far so good. However, in order to resist the temptation of picking from her kid’s plates, she ate alone in the kitchen while her family ate together at the dining table. In order to resist temptation, she completely isolated herself and missed precious family time with her husband and children. Going out for a romantic dinner with her husband was out of the question as was having a girls night out with her friends.

I think you can see where this is going and can probably guess how long that kind of self-denial would last.

Having spent a lot of money on this ‘weight loss’ system and using will-power alone, she was pretty miserable. There was absolutely nothing positive to aim for and her unresolved, subconscious emotional drivers would probably ensure she wasn’t going to be able to sustain this lonely regime for very long.

On the completely opposite end of the spectrum, I worked with a lady who’s results astounded me.

We worked one to one, addressing the roots of her emotional eating with E.F.T. and she confided in me that she was worried that changing her outlook and attitude towards food might ruin a special friendship she had. She and a girlfriend had a regular girls night date where they ordered Chinese food, chatted and laughed and really enjoyed themselves. After dinner, her friend’s daughter would bring home snacks which they would all enjoy together. These evenings were really special to her and she didn’t want to lose them.

To be completely honest, at the time I didn’t know how the work we did together would affect these special evenings. I was thrilled and amazed when she told me what had happened the first ‘girls night’ after our sessions.

The evening started out as normal, chatting, laughing and having a good time. Controlling how much she ate wasn’t even on her mind, she was up for a good, fun night. What she hadn’t explained to me before, was that they always went back for second helpings and ate the food until it was gone! After that, they’d get stuck into the snacks the friend’s daughter brought over.

On this night, however, she didn’t go back for second helpings nor was she drawn to eat any of the snacks, she just felt happily full. She wasn’t using will-power, she hadn’t even consciously thought of how much she was or was not eating, she just felt full. This I would have expected, but I didn’t expect the next part! Her friend (who didn’t even know about our E.F.T. sessions and certainly hadn’t done any!) didn’t go back for second helpings either, nor did she eat as many of the snacks her daughter brought over.

By changing her inner-world, energy and attitude and without saying a word, my client’s inner changes changed the dynamics of the evening.

Whatever emotional drivers and dynamics had been at play had changed and this change affected everyone. It didn’t happen on a conscious level but on the much more powerful energetic level and best of all, none of it involved self-denial, self-discipline or will-power!

This really goes to the root of this work, we don’t want to be miserable, micro manage ourselves, struggle with will-power and expensive weight loss solutions. We want to effect change on a deep, subconscious level, by healing the emotional drivers behind the behaviour. We want this to be easy, natural and organic and most importantly we still want to be able to enjoy spending time with our loved ones, eating together and having fun!

Learn more about the true keys to permanent, healthy weight loss.

“It has never been about food, it has always, always been about healing painful emotions.”

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Clear Out Poverty Consciousness!

Clear Out Poverty Consciousness!

Clear Out Poverty Consciousness

Affirmations To Clear The Subconscious Patterns That Are Keeping Money Out Of Your Life.

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If we have a strong believe in lack, lack is what we will continue to create in our lives. The Law of Attraction teaches this powerfully simple concept. But how can we change our beliefs and therefore our vibration and attract money or keep the money we have? The key is to release your negative, disempowering beliefs and heal your relationship with the energy of money!

Releasing The Negative Emotions You Have Around Money

I release poverty!

I release lack!

I release dependency!

I release insecurity!

I release fear!

I release the energy of “there is not enough”!

I release the energy and belief that there is never enough!

I release anxiety!

I release worry!

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I clear all the ways I worry about paying my bills!

I clear all the ways I worry about paying my rent!

I clear all the ways I worry about debt!

I release lack of trust in myself!

I release financial fear!

I release the thought, that money always goes out faster than it comes in!

I release all my conscious and unconscious blocks to abundance!

I release primal fear!

I release tribal fear!

I release any survival fear I am carrying!

I clear and release all my fear-full thought patterns!

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I release all the fear I have stored in my cells!

I release all the fear I have stored in my stomach!

I release all the fear I have stored in my back!

I release all the fear I have stored in my hips!

I release and detach from the fear-full thoughts in my head!

I clear any ways I have bought in to the poverty mentality!

I clear all the ways I have been affected by media messages about lack!

I clear any ways I believe in recession!

I clear any ways I feel deprived!

I release any beliefs I hold, that money is the root of all evil!

I release the belief that I will become a greedy person if I have a lot of money!

I release the belief that wealthy people are just “takers”

I release the belief that money is not spiritual!

I release any beliefs any parts of me hold, that money is evil!

I clear all the ways, I perceive myself as good and money as evil!

I clear all the ways I set up that dilemma!

I release any old thoughts, beliefs or vows connecting spirituality with poverty!

I release the belief that to be good and giving I have to be poor!

I release the belief that I can’t be spiritual and wealthy at the same time!

I release any ways I am not good enough!

I release and completely let go of any and all ways I feel undeserving!

I release any ways I equate wealth with greed!

I clear any ways I equate wealth with corruption!

I clear all the ways, I resist accepting abundance, well being and wealth!

I clear all the ways I resist receiving!

I clear all the ways I refuse to accept!

I clear all the ways, I believe it is better to give than to receive!

I clear all the ways I am a giver not a taker!

I clear all the ways, I believe takers are unpleasant people!

I release any belief I have, that wealthy people are bad!

I release the belief that if I do what I love, I’ll starve to death!

I release my belief in lack!

I release the belief that I can’t make any money!

I release the belief that money doesn’t grow on trees!

I clear my belief in limitation!

I accept and allow that I had these fears and I now release them completely!

I release and completely let go, of the belief, that I am not good with money and will never be wealthy. I now realise that money is energy and the supply of energy is limitless!

When you have worked through these clearing & healing statements, move on to afformations, to prepare your subconscious mind to accept and receive positive affirmations.

 

 

Weight Loss and Teaching a Dog To Sit

Weight Loss and Teaching a Dog To Sit

Weight Loss and Teaching a Dog To Sit

affirmations for weight loss

I’ve written a lot about weight loss recently because I think it’s a very misunderstood area.  For some reason many of us who are well versed in energy work, universal laws, law of attraction and such topics, don’t realise that the same laws apply to weight and body image issues – they do!

Before I moved into Energy Therapies, I trained in Dog Behaviour. We used kind, effective, reward based training never allowing the dog to fail and very rarely, if ever, using the word “no”.

The trick was to take the dog’s mind where you wanted the body to go, quietly, gently and without force. For example, to teach the dog to sit you hold a treat in front of and just above the dog’s face. If you have their attention and position the treat correctly, their bottom will eventually lower to the floor – success! Most importantly, you have not used force, you have not created an unpleasant experience nor have you created resistance or conflict – even bigger success!!

The very same can be said about successful weight loss. If you get your mind, in our case, the subconscious mind, to go where you want your body to go, without using force (will-power) or creating resistance or conflict, you are on your way to success.

Unlike dogs, most of us already have conflict and resistance in our minds, so first it is essential to clear out all the old emotional debris and this is where energy therapies and affirmations come into their own.

One lady wrote to me recently after having used our Heal Your Relationship With Food meditation once:-

“I had used your Food meditation the other night for the first time (I always feel guilty about food choices even if all I’ve had is a bagel and I find it difficult to know when I’m full, etc.) Well this morning I laid out my breakfast and was happily eating it and then with about 3/4 of it done, I suddenly decided I didn’t want any more, I just wasn’t hungry any longer. This might seem very normal for most people but that doesn’t happen to me. So I was very surprised and pleased!”

At a subconscious level that meditation had eased the emotional drivers that were causing her to over-eat. With them out of the way, it was then completely effortless for her body to tell her when it was full and for her not to finish her breakfast.

Try tapping along with or reading through our free Heal Your Relationship with Food script or jump right in and get our comprehensive, eight MP3 True Key To Permanent, Healthy Weight Loss Package or the single Heal Your Relationship with Food MP3 (also available on our What Your Body Wants to Hear mobile app.)

Using force is by far the hardest, most unpleasant and least effective strategy for both dog training and weight loss!

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Learn more from my recent articles:- Make Friends With Food

Healing The Weight Loss Struggle of the Empath

I love to hear from you, please feel free to reply to this email or if you are on Facebook, I’d love to welcome you to our Beyond Affirmations Community where we  can get to know each other better and I am always available to answer your questions.

To your health and healing,

Love

Barbara

Healing the Weight Loss Struggle of the Empath

Healing the Weight Loss Struggle of the Empath

Healing the Weight Loss Struggle of the Empath

affirmations for weight loss

I’ve written a lot about weight loss recently because I think it’s a very misunderstood area.  For some reason many of us who are well versed in energy work, universal laws, law of attraction and such topics, don’t realise that the same laws apply to weight and body image issues – they do!

As I wrote in my Make Friends With Food article, everything we’ve learned in personal or spiritual development studies can equally be applied to weight and body image issues. We have a relationship with food, just as we have a relationship with everything and everyone else in our lives. If we create conflict and struggle in that relationship with our negative beliefs we simply create more resistance and more struggle.

I covered a lot of the reasons for stubborn weight issues in my article What Was Going On In Your Life The Last Time You Were at Your Ideal Weight? some of which apply to empaths too. But there are also a few different reasons an empath may struggle with weight issues.

In my e-book, Healing the Heart of the Empath, I described how so many of us have spent our lives being told we are “too” something. “Too sensitive, too emotional, too serious, too passionate, too opinionated too ….Fill in the blank, it’s been endless.” Many of us also struggle to know where our energy and emotions end and other people’s begin and this can contribute to over-eating and failure to lose weight.

As with everything our bodies do, there are deeper, eminently, sensible and logical reasons for it but until we understand those reasons, it can be hard to know where to turn when we keep failing to lose or maintain weight.

Firstly let’s look at being “too much” for people. I hope those of you who have read the e-book or used my Healing the Heart of the Empath meditation package are leaving that belief behind by now! But even when we have healed the emotional roots, our bodies take a bit of time to catch up. Your body may still be holding on to excess weight in an effort to slow your energy down and stop being “too much” for people. The comfort aspect of over-eating may feel good in the moment but after a few minutes you feel that heavy feeling which is a great way of slowing your energy down!

Look at where you still believe you are “too much” for others and see if your over-eating is related to that belief.

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The second reason an empath may struggle with weight issues, is a lack of emotional grounding. If you are going into the emotional fray every day without consciously grounding yourself, your body may have decided it has to ground you!  If you are giving too much of yourself in a healing capacity, over-eating dulls your senses and your sensitivity giving you a much needed emotional break.  (Once again, I marvel at the wisdom of our bodies and how they really are always trying to do the very best they can to support us!)

Consciously and deliberately find another way to ground yourself and your body will move towards it’s natural balance again.

Using our free Heal Your Relationship with Food Affirmations will help you change your energy and beliefs and therefore your relationship with food. Read or tap along with them for a few days and you’ll feel the difference!

One lady explains how surprised and pleased she was at breakfast the morning after using our Heal Your Relationship with Food Meditation

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I just wasn’t hungry any longer. I had used your Food meditation the other night for the first time (I always feel guilty about food choices even if all I’ve had is a bagel lol and I find it difficult to know when I’m full, etc.) Well this morning I laid out my breakfast and was happily eating it and then with about 3/4 of it done, I suddenly decided I didn’t want anymore, I just wasn’t hungry any longer. This might seem very normal for most people but that doesn’t happen to me. lol So I was very surprised and pleased! lol

Just wanted you to know how effective your meditations are. And by the way, all previous attempts I’ve made at meditating (before purchasing your meditations) have been an abject failure for me, thus why I am really overjoyed to find something effective that makes me WANT to meditate! 😉 lol

A.W. 11th December 2017

 

 

 

 

 

 

Make Friends With Food!

Make Friends With Food!

When You Change Your Relationship With Food, You Change The Way Your Body Reacts To It!

affirmations for weight loss

Most of what we’ve been taught about achieving and maintaining our ideal weight simply isn’t true! Calorie counting, weighing and measuring have their place, but if you don’t address the emotional drivers behind over-eating or choosing food that doesn’t nourish you, any weight loss you achieve will be hard won and almost certainly won’t last.

 

Everything we learned in personal or spiritual development studies can equally be applied to weight and body image issues.  We have a relationship with food, just as we have a relationship with everything and everyone else in our lives. If we create conflict and struggle in that relationship with our negative beliefs we simply create more resistance and more struggle.

This lady explains how surprised and pleased she was at breakfast the morning after using our Heal Your Relationship with Food Meditation

What We Resist Persists

When we push against something we automatically create resistance.  When we focus only on what we want, not what we don’t want, it manifests for us. When we focus on the end result, rather than perceived hurdles and difficulties, we reach the desired result a lot faster and painlessly.

I covered a lot of the reasons for stubborn weight issues in my article What Was Going On In Your Life The Last Time You Were at Your Ideal Weight? so I won’t cover that ground again.

Emotional Drivers

We know that in other areas of life, making war against something never achieves peace.  The same is true of our relationship with food and how food affects our bodies. If we are not aware of the emotional drivers behind our behaviour we are powerless to control the behaviour for very long. Willpower alone will only take us so far.

The truth is, when you clear the emotional drivers behind over-eating or eating what you (or others) consider to be the ‘wrong’ foods you take back your own power and your body, in its infinite wisdom will bring itself back into balance.

Free Healing Affirmations To Heal Your Relationship With Food

All our healing affirmations are absolutely free. Why not read or tap along with our Heal Your Relationship with Food script for a few days and watch how your body responds?

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